Famed West Hollywood Gay Bar Bans Bachelorette Parties

May 28, 2012
dewitt
Equality
15 Comments

And it’s about damn time. I love my ladies, but we ain’t circus animals, honey. This is not the zoo. We don’t want to touch up on your boobs, and we’re past caring that no creepy straight guys hit on you at gay bars so wheee it’s safe here!

WeHo’s The Abbey has banned bachelorette parties, and their owner says it’s a form of political protest. It’s ok if he admits he’s sick of tiara, pink boas, annoying drunk girls who dance badly and penis squirt guns. Well, maybe not penis squirt guns.

Proprietor David Cooley says:

We love our straight girlfriends coming in to celebrate one of the happiest days of their life. But it’s also a slap in the face to my customers and my life that we can’t have that same celebration.

Truth! Although, they should keep going to drag shows. Nothing pleases me more than the look on a bachelorette’s face when a drag queen lets loose on her ass with the insults. Did you really think that you were going to go to a drag show and it was going to be all Disney showtunes?

- J. Harvey

Wjpd12000

What would happen if the gay bar across the street banned all gays? Just askin
Thunderkun

Then it would not be a gay bar, it would be a no-gays bar.
boinkalicious

This isn’t the first one to do it. A couple places in Vegas did it more than 5 years ago, as I recall. And, to be honest, I don’t go to a gay bar to watch a bunch of str8 girls making asses of themselves. If newspapers don’t violate the law by refusing to print gay commitments in their “wedding announcements,” then the bars don’t violate it by not allowing wedding celebrations to be held on their premises.
GraphicJack

That’s a weak comparison, mainly because they are not banning ALL women, just bachelorette parties, which I think is spot-on perfect. These parties at our bars are a slap in the face to gays who can’t marry AND they are fucking annoying in a “girls gone wild” way… spilling drinks, screaming and screeching, stepping on your feet, groping your ass… it’s obnoxious and completely kills the fun of going out.

I have zero problem with some female friends of a gay guy coming to a mainly gay male bar. They are just hanging out with their (gay) friends and are usually a lot of fun… they “get” gay guys and are respectful.

But as J. Harvey says, the women at these bachelorette parties are only going to gay bars because they want to get sloppy drunk and not worry that some guy is gonna slip them a ruffie. Fair enough, I suppose, but they also want to oggle us, and probably aren’t even with any friends who are gay… I agree that we are not a petting zoo. Rent out a straight bar for an evening, ladies, don’t invite any guys unless you want to hire a stripper, act like the wild women you are, and stay the f*&^ away from the few safe spaces we have.
http://twitter.com/atlas304 atlas

i would love to go to a drag show where they only sang disney tunes
TWEWY

…I want to touch their boobs!
Sad thing is I’m not even bi…
B1

The thing is, let’s face it, most chicks have no strip club etiquette at all. All they do is giggle, scream, jump up & down, and can’t stop long enough to give a tip properly. Bachelorette parties just seems to exasperate this behavior. When I am at a strip club, I appreciate and enjoy the naked gyrating bodies with looks of lust, and when I tip a dancer, I look like I want to bend him over and fuck his brain out on the spot. LOL Just act like a strip club patron instead of a Bieber fangirl, ladies, and I am all for you partying with us.
Slendernhung

I work in the entertainment business in Ptown and we have the same problems with the bachlorette parties. They invade the gay bars and drag shows here in town and act as if it is all there for their pleasure and no one elses. They are rude and loud and really don’t care if anyone else has fun. It was fun to watch Jackie Beat chase them out of her show though! We welcome ladies into all venues here but not frat boys with tits!
DomPnoy78

This really isn’t an issue. Some straight clubs/bars don’t allow bachelorette parties either because some parties become loud and rude to other customers at the bar. Any business have the right to refuse service to customers for appropriate reasons. Customers who are disruptive and disrespectful of other customers should be 86′d ASAP to cater to the respectful customers.
John

I agree that these parties have no place in gay bars. I don’t have any problems with fag hags, but it’s the ones who have no other friends besides gay guys, go only to gay bars, and even have a profile on gay hookup sites or phone apps like Grindr that really annoy me. For crying out loud, you’re still women! Try living like one for at least 5 minutes! Gay bars and gay apps are for gay men. I love women, but it seems as if they are slowly crossing the line more and more and gay men in general are going to get to the point where we start to resent these females because they are always in our space. I think this banning of bachelorette parties is a good start in seeing that these women don’t impose themseleves on EVERY aspect of gay life.
Adam G

I think this is a great move and would love to see similar in some of the gay bars in the UK particularly in Manchester, where Canal St is no more gay than it is for underaged kids to go clubbing and hen parties to awk at the freak show – how ridiculous that for so many years, large, annoying groups of women come to gay clubs to feel safe, instead of trying to challenge the society that makes them uncomfortable. It’s great that we’re reclaiming safe community spaces and this policy should be put into place in more community spaces.
http://twitter.com/I_R_Speedster Kidd Flash

Boobs are fun to play with!
rkeraveboi

I think it is a good stance to have. However, it seems like most people just care about girls being annoying around them. I live in a city with 1 gay bar and i would be appalled to see all the other bars ban groups of gay people because they might be deemed obnoxious or loud or bad tippers. They also shouldnt have to have a gay friend with them to make it okay with you guys. Invading our space?

Get over yourselves and share the space. Catering to one group doesnt mean dismissing all other groups
http://www.MaleEroticDungeon.com/ Michael!

I agree and disagree with this decision. On the one hand it is a very ironic slap in the face for us yet these are the very women who will be our strongest allies in the straight world. One of our local bars really seems to attract these groups almost anytime I’ve gone there (and it’s also one of the reasons I STOPPED going there). The gals are usually fun and heavily intoxicated. Yes, they are a bit annoying and at times a bit too wild and I’ll admit that I’ve been in the bar and wished they’d just go away because they’re a big hot mess…but then again they are strong gay community allies and if you hang out with them mid-party, they’re fun and funny. If we want acceptance from them, we can’t project our wounds on to them and punish them for it. We all deserve to have fun and party with those who support us.
Anonymous

Well said.

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