Several of you have asked when we’re going to cover the news of Rod Daily‘s HIV status. There was admittedly some hesitation on our part due to the potentially harsh reactions. Not to mention, sites with a deeper understanding of the industry like Gay Porn Blog have tackled the topic with much more grace than we could ever aspire to.
For those of you still wondering what the hell we’re talking about, Rod Daily recently revealed on Twitter that he tested positive for HIV, after news of his girlfriend Cameron Bay‘s status leaked and made national headlines. In anticipation of those potentially harsh reactions we mentioned earlier, we’ve gone ahead and made a short list of four ways to not react to this news.
– Dewitt
Read our list of ways to NOT react to Rod Daily’s HIV status:
Playing The Blame Game: Who or what is to blame for Rod Daily testing positive? His girlfriend, Cameron Bay? One of her scene partners? Rod Daily himself? His sexuality? His tendency to bottom? The gay porn industry? Please stop asking yourself these questions. Rod said in an interview that he’s not pointing any fingers, and it’s really not your business to do the pointing for him (or toward him).
Turning Your Back On Him: If you are a fan of Rod Daily, there’s no reason to stop being a fan of Rod Daily. He is, effectively, leaving the adult industry, but there are still other ways to show your support. Connect with him on Twitter and send over a warm thought or two… Or if you’re looking for a more grand gesture, do something to reduce stigma and stop discrimination against people living with HIV. The Stigma Project has some great campaigns which might assist in both of these missions.
Begging Him To Come Back To Porn: This is his decision to make. He does not have to stop filming adult scenes—especially if he is on effective HIV treatment and undetectable—but if that’s the step he feels he needs to take in life, let him move on with his life and hold his head high. Yes, he could still film solos! Yes, he could still work with studios who use condoms and hire HIV-positive performers! Yes, he could still work with bareback studios who hire HIV-positive performers and (generally) pair them together! But he doesn’t want to, at least right at this moment. You should respect that.
Fearing Gay Sex In General: You are not going to test positive for HIV if you merely walk out your front door. This seems like a silly way of putting it, but I look to Ricky Larkin as an example of someone who jumped ship from the industry because of this incident. Many sexually active individuals and gay porn performers have a lot of gay sex and remain HIV negative. Communicate with your partner(s), take the precautions you’re comfortable with and get tested regularly. Our dear friends at Manhunt Cares have an extensive list of testing resources and other information, though you can also pick-up an at-home HIV test (OraQuick) online or at your local pharmacy.
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Poor guy. At least he caught it early and can get it under control.
Great suggestions. Sadly…now waiting for comments that are examples of all 4 of these.
All the best to Rod. Some of the things that have been happening to he and Cameron should never happen to anyone. Life is filled with complications and we all deal with them in different ways. I am confident that they will emerge stronger as long as they mute the ignorant and hateful comments that have been posted on other sites
1. K, I’ll cover the first one (blame game). It’s your fault.
2. While I’m at it, I’ll do the second one as well: no more Rod Daily videos for me… totes unfollowing him on Twitter and everything.
3. No, wait! I changed my mind. ROD COME BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK!
4. Also, I am now afraid to have gay sex.
K, where’s my medal?
One of the absolute BEST posts you ever written, Dewitt. Huzzah and fantastic. Lots of gay and bisexual men, their lesbian sisters, their fag hags and various assorted allies marched, shouted, organized, sweated and bled so that people would understand that HIV-status reveals a medical condition and not a moral one. More, more, more thoughtful, insightful work! You can throw in a few of these among the porn images and the celebrity gossip
If we are to learn anything about Rods misfortune let it be that HIV/ AIDS is still very much active and until that day come when HIV/ AIDS is ERADICATED from the face of this earth we can never turn a blinds eye when it comes to dealing with this disease and.To Rod & Cameron I can only wish the both of you all the BEST and thanks for having the courage to do what is right by coming forward ( I know it could not have been easy ) THANK YOU AGAIN & GOD BLESS !!!
Its funny how people treat HIV like its only a gay thing. If your having sex with more than one person if your life then you should always use protection. Cliff Jensen said it best in his video about measure b. If your not having sex with one person and only one person then you need to use protection in your personal life as well.
i slowly began to realize how many guys were lying to me a few years after i came out. i came out several years and was a slut and a whore (grin) i had a blast sex parties , being invited on porn set by porn buddies, fucking around with all of them, the circuit parties, and for once in my life had all the great sex i wanted. but when i realized how i was being lied to it just slowly began to make me more and more paranoid, although i never ever once bb the thought of an hiv test would make me so sick and nervous that i just stopped fucking about 2 yrs ago. i was recently diagnosed with hep b. all along i always thought i was doing everything right but obviously i was not. i have ONLY myself to blame. it sucks being celibate but when i read stories like this and see what i did to myself how can anyone NOT be terrified of having gay sex. i am and theres really no way around it ..getting this was my price of admission what ever fun i had wasn’t worth this
Great suggestions! I wish people stop pretending to be so damn shocked every time a actor comes out as positive. If you REALLY want to know the truth, a lot of these models that you lust after are probably already positive. At least he was man enough to be honest about his status! I wish Rod nothing but the best in his future.
I’m just glad they caught it early, and he’s looking at it in a positive way. Hopefully he will be an inspiration to his girlfriend also. They have a long way to go, with all the negativity that not only the adult entertainment world will not be a help, but us the fans, who will amazingly turn our backs on they, when we once lusted and rooted for them to get us more thrills. Medication will be expensive, thw working work is awful, and people are so misunderstanding. The people who should be understanding, and forgiving, are quickly going to hell in a handbasket with the hate, and judgmental attitudes. The gay world is getting as bad as the bible thumpers, as to when we blog or comment, on looks, performances, types and make fun of the very thing that we when through when we came out. I just tweeted with a guy who was talking about wanting to go back in the closet, and he was in the military. Sad…. We need to start being supportive, help the ones that have fallen, help they back up again, help they to believe. I have hope but I can’t hope alone. Please guys….
your response is well not to be too sharp quite hysterical… it is a bit like saying oh, my god I’m never going to drive again because there are accidents. You’ve gone from being a slut to a monk. Here is a suggestion. Wear a condom. Treat everyone you meet as if they were HIV positive and act accordingly. Considering all the fucking that goes on and that the numbers have dropped in terms of infections among gay men, it appears condom use is an effective way to stop the spread of the virus. One of the main reasons for people getting infected is drug use, which quite frankly makes you use bad judgment (as if taking drugs isn’t bad enough judgment in itself). Thankfully, Mr. Daly will be on medication and will hopefully be just fine. But wrap it up, kids…. We all yammer on about HIV but the biggest threat to the gay community is drug use — which seems to be prevalent at most circuit parties which ironically were started as a way to raise money and awareness of HIV and have turned into a parade of zero body fat whatevers, high as a kite and fucking without protection multiple partners.
ive always used condoms never once bb, im just so nervous about it anymore, i have already contracted hep b! WTF! hep b is mostly a std, ive never used needles. i just feel like fucking around like i used to is pushing my luck. i wore a condom to be safe but as silly as it sounds i never thought anyone would lie to me when i first started fucking around, if i thought someone was hiv i just couldnt get my dick hard i’d be too afraid.
Phil your reply is 100% accurate. More people need to listen to the message you spread,
I too educate on HIV/AIDS Awareness, When I first came out I was 18 and very sexual I would say within my first 2 years being openly gay I slept with more than 300 people. some protected some not. I went from a slut, to a whore-selling myself letting guys pay me to do anything they wanted, I was gang raped by 3 men (all unprotected) someway somehow, till this day I would estimate my sexual intercourse partners to be over 500+ I would say 100+ of them were unprotected or “risky” business. Its been 15 years. I have never had an STD, vaccinated against hep A, B and C. I have no idea how I have escaped the HIV or any STD bug-Even crabs! Nothing. I have been tested fully and have never had anything. My hiv tests are done by hostpital labs blood test.
Things can happen unexplainable. I have friends who have only been with 5 guys and that #5 was the Positive one.
I cannot stress enough to the youths of today that you MUST MUST MUST use protection. You can find condoms at local gay clubs/bars. Or u can buy them at your local walmart I think $1 for a 3pack. One Buck could save your life.
I also want to note. I have topped a Poz-Bottom. I used a condom and never contracted it. So there are safe practices. But in all accounts im standing here negative when I dodged the HIV bullet many times and came up lucky.
assume everyone you have sex with is hiv poz??? and thats supposed to put you at ease and feel safer (even with condoms?) if i thought anyone i had sex with had hiv i would not be able to have sex with them…my dick would not work…..WHY would you ? this is not against any one hiv poz, its just common sense if you KNOW the person is poz move on, why take the chance …even if it is a small chance why take it ? they would not want to pass it along to anyone either. ive not fucked in just over two years, i kept getting guys lying to me, id find out later they were poz, i always used condoms but it just gott o be too nerve wracking getting test etc..so i just stopped. it sucks yes, but i know i’m not going to have to worry or get tested
He is still hot…He caught it early. He can still live a full life. All the best to him.