All the gay blogs are dragging former ex-gay poster boy John Faulk. In the late 90s, Paulk wrote a book and ran a ministry called Love Won Out (an offshoot of anti-gay crazies Focus On The Family), both which claimed that you can pray away that cock-sucking urge. In September of 2000 he was on a speaking tour (aka trying to scar gay people who were obviously already messed up about their sexuality) when he was spotted at a gay bar in Washington, DC. He was almost immediately removed from the leadership role in his church, and quit for good in 2003. Paulk went on to open a catering business. He also apparently frequented the salon a lot because that is a luxurious weave!
Did Paulk ever apologize for his part in making gay people feel that they are somehow broken and need fixing? Yeah, 10 years after he left his church. This month even!
For the better part of ten years, I was an advocate and spokesman for what’s known as the “ex-gay movement,” where we declared that sexual orientation could be changed through a close-knit relationship with God, intensive therapy and strong determination. At the time, I truly believed that it would happen. And while many things in my life did change as a Christian, my sexual orientation did not.
So in 2003, I left the public ministry and gave up my role as a spokesman for the “ex-gay movement.” I began a new journey. In the decade since, my beliefs have changed. Today, I do not consider myself “ex-gay” and I no longer support or promote the movement. Please allow me to be clear: I do not believe that reparative therapy changes sexual orientation; in fact, it does great harm to many people.
I know that countless people were harmed by things I said and did in the past, Parents, families, and their loved ones were negatively impacted by the notion of reparative therapy and the message of change. I am truly, truly sorry for the pain I have caused.
From the bottom of my heart I wish I could take back my words and actions that caused anger, depression, guilt and hopelessness. In their place I want to extend love, hope, tenderness, joy and the truth that gay people are loved by God.
Today, I see LGBT people for who they are–beloved, cherished children of God. I offer my most sincere and heartfelt apology to men, women, and especially children and teens who felt unlovable, unworthy, shamed or thrown away by God or the church.
Thanks? Yeah, it’s nice that he apologized. But why take everyone down with you when you’re all fucked up over your gayness?
I couldn’t find anything kinky to ask you about this week so I figured – are ex-gay guys hot? Do you see them as some sort of sick challenge? Did you ever want to infiltrate their facility and bend a guy fighting the gay over his desk and plant your reality stick deep within his God-fearing buttocks?
There is absolutely nothing hot about “ex.gays”. Might as well try to “pray the black away” or “pray the anything away”. These are cowards giving in to religious and societal pressure to avoid manning up and being who they really. This is just one of the reasons and ways religion has poisoned our community.
I like an “ex-jock,” but an ex-gay sounds like a whole handful I’m not interested in dealing with.
Faulk is a jerk, though. He’s got a lot of pain to work through, both in himself and for what he’s caused to other people and families.
Has he ever admitted that he is gay or is he merely sorry for the religious mind-fuck and still feels the need to be discreet, closeted or on the down-low?
You cannot fault someone for his or her beliefs. You can try to offer your views and if they can’t see eye to eye with you, well, remember that YOU can’t see eye to eye with them, either. *IF*…. *IF*… he REALLY did believe that something like pray the gay away was possible, then he was brainwashed. Wanted to believe it so much, he convinced himself with the help of people who were just as ignorant.
And as much as I’d love for people like this to receive a forced brainwashing back to personal critical thinking… anyone he “hurt” by his chatter also has a personal responsibility to do what’s best for themselves. Unfortunately, this also slippery-slopes to the ever declining teaching in schools and throughout young adulthood of thinking critically. As the saying goes, “There are 3 sides to every story; his, hers, and the truth that’s somewhere in between.” To listen to someone and take what they say as gospel (pardon the pun), shows a real lack of understanding about the world at large.
Oh, yeah, and this dude is not now nor was ever sexy. No, sorry, no.
Self-loathing isn’t and never will be an attractive trait.
Since I define “hotness” as the total package, even if an ex-gay was physically attractive (although I haven’t seen one yet that is, and this weave-wearing jerkoff certainly isn’t), he would fail on personality and intelligence.
Christopher Hitchens was right: religion poisons everything. The “Ex-Gay Movement” is brought to you by the same types of lunatics who believe that dinosaurs and humans co-existed, and that Earth is only 6,000 years old. It’s no surprise why you don’t see any secular organizations making these stupid-ass claims: REAL research and evidence support the conclusion that one’s sexual orientation is immutable.
Christians should know that all this hate is pushing the next generation and the next generation away from god. not saything that this is a good or bad thing.
Yes, one can fault someone for their beliefs. A belief is feeling you’re right about something, there’s nothing intrinsic about that. If I believe I’m a rabbit, would not someone rightful point out the fault in that belief?
I was talking to a friend the other day about this very thing. And I told him that it is my mission to fuck with so called “ex-gays”. . I d have em sucking cock faster than you can say poppers. I d find that weakness and make them regret their insolence. My fangs would sprout.
Not even fucking close to being hot. I would never be attracted to someone I feel so tragically sorry for.
How I pray for the day when the human race realizes that it no longer has any need for something so primitive as religious belief!
about as much ‘ex’ as those who are my ‘ex’es
I don’t pray for atheism. Fucking for abstinence is more fun. 🙂
I feel pity, not desire, for these ex-ex gays. I am happy if he has accepted himself and accepts and acknowledges the damage and pain he’s caused, but that won’t make me go weak in the knees for him. Maybe when he loves himself he can hope for someone to love him. I hope he finds peace, but not on my time.
Not hot at all but I do like it when they finally own the harm they’ve done and apologize for it. It seems to be happening a lot with these guys and some Republican legislators. I have yet to see anyone have to come back and say “I’m sorry that I said it was cool, wonderful, awesome and totally normal to be gay.” If I’ve missed one of those, please let me know.
LOL Well, sure… anyone can find fault in anything. But who am I to judge you? What the hell gives me the actual right (not the perceived right) to tell you you’re not only wrong, but I’m right and it’s the only truth there is. “You’re not a rabbit, you’re a kangaroo, dummy!” As you can see, we’re both wrong here, aren’t we? But each of us really believes we’re right.
It’s nothing shy of arrogance to assume we have a right to judge someone for their beliefs. Again, if it’s really a true faith belief and not just a story they’re using to support their intentional ignorance and hatred for things they don’t want to have to deal with.
As an atheist I can respect a person, and their right to ha a certain beloeft,but that doesn’t mean I have to respect the belief itself. Is it not also arrogance to presume that one’s belief is truth/factual? The cognitive dissonance that the faithful have is truly amazing. They believe that their god lobes them and made them but also believe that they were made wrong and thus need to be cured. It’s just ridiculous. I’m not having a go at you personally, but I just find it astonishing that anyone beyond a inexperienced child could believe in religions, and therefore the self loathing that comes with it.
Agreed. It si what it is, So sayeth the great Flying Spaghetti Monster. And may you be touched by his noodliness!
May you also be touched by His Noodly Appendage 🙂
I’ve always said that to be “attractive” someone has to have both looks and personality. A hot-as-hell man takes on not-so-hot characteristics that you can almost see physically when he’s a putz to those around him.
But an average or maybe below average looking guy can be the hottest man – the love of your life if he knows how to treat you and those around him. I just hope that when people see my less than average looks, they think even half as much about me. And that’s the facts, Ma’am!