One of the best things QueerClick does (aside from the tons of hot guys, of almost all varieties – props on diversity, QC!) is their Ask QC column, where they offer advice of all kinds to questions about health, sexuality, and general “is this weird?” behaviors. This week they got a letter from a super young (19!) guy who was embarrassed because after he shoots, he laughs. Here’s his letter:
Dear Ask QC,
For some reason I can’t stop laughing when I cum – I just crack up which is okay when I’m just jerking alone but the few occasions I’ve had sex with another guy it’s sort of been a bit of a disaster.
I’m 19 and not that experienced but I’ve been jerking since 13, I’ve always laughed when I’ve cum and never thought it would be a problem but since my last 3 experiences with guys I’ve been told I’m weird and one guy even got really angry.
The thing is it’s not like I just giggle or laugh for a few seconds when I cum, it’s like for 5 or even 10 minutes – I really can’t stop. I know it’s probably a bit weird so I want to know why I do this or how I can stop doing it. I still live at home with my parents and don’t have any other gay friends (I’m quite shy and introverted) so this is kinda affecting my confidence now to meet other guys. Am I normal or can I stop this?
I don’t know how much advice you guys give, but any time somebody asks “am I normal?” you should know you’re in dangerous territory, feelings-wise. Especially when it’s about sex. QC was pretty delicate about their advice back to this guy (which you can read in full over at QueerClick.com), but really they should have said “stop fucking guys who get mad when you have fun.” Who fucking cares if you laugh when you cum? Isn’t that so much better than any other response? What if you couldn’t stop saying anti-Semitic things? Or you bust your nut and can’t stop sneezing or gagging or farting? Laughing seems like a pretty endearing response. Make “don’t fuck awful people” your motto. It will save you a LOT of self doubt and “am I normal” conversations.
Full disclosure: after I jack off (but not usually when I cum with somebody else because of the embarrassment) I usually start singing. Which, as my dear friend Lucas Brooks once pointed out, isn’t as weird as you think:
What would you have told this kid?
Read about Austin Andrews and Zane Michaels (in the header pic) here…
Last I checked, sex was about having fun and enjoying your body and all of the awesome things it can do. There is nothing wrong with laughing in bed at any point. In fact, I encourage it. If this is your body’s natural response to orgasm, embrace it. You’ll have more fun that way.
And if I may be blunt, if people give you the stink-eye for laughing when you cum, and can’t appreciate your form of sexual expression, then they really don’t deserve to get fucked. Just sayin’.
The few times it has happened to me (I was the one laughing), my partners always joined in. Maybe I’m just lucky.
OMGOMGOMGOMG! Singing!!!!!! You must record and do a play list!
But what does it feel like? Is it a similar feeling to being tickled? What makes you laugh? (Sincere question)
And call it Orgasm Tunes
It just feels like I need to laugh – quite different from being tickled. What makes me laugh? Probably the post-orgasm hormones.