Have you ever been on the receiving end of really bad head? Duh, I’m pretty sure we all have, and it–pardon the expression–blows. But have you ever felt like the head you were giving someone was below average? I’ve had many guys ask me for advice on how to improve their skin-flute abilities, but it’s a pretty hard request to address without experiencing their methods (and I do offer them the chance to show me). The fact is, there are a lot of things that factor in to good head, but here are a few tips that may help improve your GPA at Cocksucker University.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Today’s Just The Tips entry is brought to you by a guest writer, Brandon B. of The INQUEERY. Click through to check out his excellent tips!
– Brandon B.
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Lube makes EVERYTHING better: It surprises me how many guys don’t use lube when giving head. Spit is hot, but it can dry up fast and create uncomfortable friction. Adding a bit of lube makes things feel a lot better for both parties. Flavored lubes are always an option, but personally I don’t like how sweet they can be. I prefer a flavorless water-based lube such as Sliquid. It’s vegan so it doesn’t taste like horse shit, and it stays slick a long time. Silicone lubes are also great, as they don’t dry up or taste like anything. Use your hand in motion with your head, twisting and squeezing his member as you come up and watch (err, listen to) him go crazy!
Take it all: Let’s face it, the gag reflex is nature’s cruel joke to gays. For some people it’s easier to tame than it is for others. I myself have one of the worst gag reflexes in American history. Seriously, I sometimes choke when brushing my teeth. However, I have found that lying on my back at the edge of the bed while Joe Schmoe stands facing me helps a lot. This elongates the esophagus and makes it easier for things to line up properly, and also gives him a hot view of your body! You might also try sitting him down and getting on your knees in front of him. Position your knees further back, not right below you, so that you are bent towards him. Bending over the dick or facing it head on curves your throat and makes you more likely to gag.
Buttplugs, your partner in blowjob-crime: You don’t have to be a bottom to enjoy some prostate action, and if you can convince your partner to insert a prostate massager or buttplug then you will have an excellent tool at your disposal! While one hand is working his dick use the other to rock the plug back and forth, as slow or as fast as he seems to enjoy. The Aneros line is especially great for this since they are easily inserted, body-safe and cradle the prostate gland. If he’s into it and going to fuck you, suggest that he leave it in. The motions of hip thrusting and rocking will move the piece for him hands free and make the experience even better!
Strap it up before you suck it up!: I know, I know “Shut up condoms!” If you practice risk-aware sex when it comes to giving head, then you probably know that most condoms taste like a hospital floor. There are a lot of condoms on the market now such as Crown and One that don’t have that powdery latex taste and are micro-thin. Putting it on with your mouth can be hot to watch, but if you have any stubble or a beard this can tear the condom if you’re not careful. If that happens, then just use it for sucking him off and then replace it with a fresh one when the time comes to bump uglies.
Pay attention: It’s really easy to tell when you are doing something he likes versus when you are doing something that makes him want to turn on Jersey Shore and ignore your boring ass. If he isn’t responding to something you’re doing, then pull back and try something else. If you have ever watched him jerk himself off, pay attention to how he does it and try to mimic that with your mouth and hands. If he starts to moan and move his hips, that is your cue to keep doing what you’re doing (why do people always seem to start doing something else at this point?!).
Like I said, everyone is different and will like different things. Hey, even if you are the king of sucking dick, it’s always fun to try something new! What are some of the methods you use to charm those snakes?
I like laying the guy on his back, sitting by his head, and bending down to suck him off. Similar to a 69, but you lay a little farther from him. It not only teases him with your cock, but if he’s going to fuck you, it gives him a chance to play with it while he is getting “warmed up.”
I’ve never heard of using lube for head before.
One thing I like to do is pull the skin tight while I tease their frenulum and edge of the glans with my tongue. Guys seem to enjoy it.
I have a horrible gag reflex but discovered by accident how to circumvent it once with a guy whose cock curved upward: think of trying to keep the head of his dick against the roof of your mouth as it goes in and you can usually bypass the gag reflex. But for me, this only works if I can control the motion and the face — start face fucking me and I’m gonna gag, no question.
LOL, “control the pace”, not the “face” — I must have already been freaking out at the thought of getting face fucked 🙂
those are all good but I have one little problem or shoudl I say 32 problems
I always have trouble with my teeth on the dicks when I try to deepthroat them It only happens to thicker dicks
any suggestions?
I have never used lube when I suck a dick. but I do put chapstick on my lips first.
If u can swallow his cock to the base.. ( I can swallow 10″)Guys luv it when I Swallow there Dick and stick out my tounge and lick his balls at the smae time. It drives guys crazy. Cousre if u Gag its not very Sexy..LOL
Andray, multi-tasking is tough when sucking someone deep throat because you are focusing so much on not choking to death, but wrapping your lips around your teeth should help with that. Having enough lubrication on your lips is key to your lips not slipping from your teeth, be it spit or otherwise. 🙂
I have a really bad Gag reflex, Would love to know how I can work on getting rid of it
@Tom: Someone gave some advice a while back that I’ve found helpful. They said you gag because you’re trying not to swallow the cock. Just tell yourself you ARE going to swallow it, and you don’t gag as much. Not foolproof, but it seems to help (at least until they start face-fucking you).
I Have a really bad Gag reflex, I was wondering if there were any tips on how to get rid of this, would love to get some help
Thx Brandon thats not the problem
the problem is my molars lol
The have sharp edges and I try to cover the bottom ones but the top ones get at the dicks lol
I guess I have to learn to open my jaws more lol I still have my wisdom teeth so I have lots of teeth back there
Most guys actuall like a bit of teeth but soem are too sensitive
There is a difference between cut and uncut guys. Guys that are uncut almost invariably give the worst head to cut guys … they just assume that everyone has the same sensation they do. The worst for me is when an uncut guy grabs the skin on my dick and repeatedly tries to pull back hard and hoist it over my head. This is actually uncomfortable. I have yet to meet an uncut guy that was intuitive and sensitive enough to understand that the sensations are different.
oh whatever, just shut up and suck
well scott b sometimes its difficult to realize you are playing around with a deadened husk of a former penis when giving head to a cut guy.
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it can’t just be deep but you need to be tight around the whole shaft while it’s deep… 🙂
@Andray Ouch. That reminds me of that indie movie “Teeth” where the girl has chops in her vag.
Try some of that wax they sell for braces on your pointers, though I imagine any rough terrain might get a little sketchy for your lucky fella.
If Cayden Ross ( Randy Blue model with tats ) was blowing me good or bad would not matter because I am all about that FINE ass !!!
ggggonewild, “deadened husk of a former penis”? Hahaha, that gave me a good laugh. Sadly though, there’s some truth to that.
This is probably the worst sex article I’ve ever read. Thank God I’m not a closeted teen turning to the Internet for answers about being a good lover.