You probably know Christopher Daniels best from his work with studios like Raging Stallion, COLT, Falcon, Hot House and Titan Men. But before his turn as the blond bottom bombshell of gay porn, he started off in 2009 as an escort in Sin City — Las Vegas. Just four years later, he was voted Rentboy.com’s “Mr. San Francisco Escort of 2013” as well as “Mr. International Escort of the Year 2013”.
Fresh off his award wins, Christopher has penned his first book titled Money’s On The Dresser—a chronicle of his life as an escort and performer in the gay adult industry and a revealing look into his private life. I had the chance to chat with Christopher right after Hustlaball Las Vegas about his book, the world of escorting and his future plans.
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Photo credit: Falcon Studios
Scroll down below to read what Christopher had to say:
Let’s jump right into it. How did the idea for the book first come about? You mentioned in the intro that you had been escorting for quite a while. Why write a book now?
I think it came about because I kept having experiences with clients that were leaving me speechless, gobsmacked, and at times, mortified. Sometimes they were so ridiculous that I thought I had to write this shit down, otherwise I would forget it. Also, writing a book is something so many of us say we want to do, and I was the same way. I had no idea what I would ever be qualified to write about, but I decided a few years that I was going to write a book, and I figured why not make it about sex and escorting?
Some of those early chapters really left me amazed. Like… This is what people hire escorts for? Some clients certainly seemed easier than others, but there was a pretty John Waters-esque quality around some of them.
Really? I take that as a huge compliment. I really wanted people to see just how gritty and real it could be. Things like getting shit on while having sex with paraplegics are not always what people think escorts do. My friends always—and still to this day—ask, “Was the client hot?” And I want to scream, “No…he wasn’t hot.” It’s like they really think these guys look like Richard Gere. Not to say that they are ugly, but these are just normal men. They aren’t the fantasy people seem to create with “johns”.
Interesting. Let’s talk a bit more about the fantasy vs. reality part of escorting. There’s this stigma around escorting—particularly in the gay community, I feel that can breed shame. Do you think that stigma is lessened in Vegas because it’s legal there? In the book, it seemed like many guys traveled to Vegas just for you. A sexcation, if you will.
Escorts/pornstars are like drag queens. We’re celebrated and treated like celebrities in the gay community, yet we are the first ones to be torn down. I think gay men see something in us that stirs up some negative feelings in them. Maybe it’s guilt and shame surrounding sex?
I have some gay male friends who are very uncomfortable and judgmental with drag queens, and I think it’s because it brings up some issues with gender and how girls/boys should act. Maybe it’s because we were taught that boys should act like boys and not like girls?
I remember before I started in the sex industry, I would see escorts/porn stars and feel a sense of envy, jealousy, disgust and pity. Maybe it’s because they were putting their sexuality out there, and I was too afraid to do so myself. Maybe it’s because they were these hunky sex gods, and I was this 150 pound twink who hated his body. Who knows? I think it all boils down to our own unresolved issues of not getting the love and attention we needed as kids.
But then again, I am not a psychologist so I could be way off.
Also, the stigma of sex work is lessened here in Vegas as it is in most bigger cities. People don’t really care, and it always surprises me when I run into people who do have a problem with it. I think, “Oh yeah… The majority of people don’t think sex work is okay.”
I mean, we’re all paying for sex in one way or another, right?
Yes, but nobody wants to admit that. It’s okay to be a certain kind of whore, but when you are really putting it out there and “selling your time”, people are not always okay with that.
We’ve still got a long ways to go, it seems. But I think your book is doing a good job of putting that out there and showing the man behind the brand.
And that’s what I wanted!
The book is also pretty autobiographical as well. Were you nervous about including that type of personal information?
Incredibly! I had several moments while editing it and even after the book came out. I freaked out a few times thinking, “Oh God… what if people think (fill in blank) about me?”
Have you had any backlash about that?
Not really yet, but it is too soon to tell. One concern I had was “what if I a guy I really like reads the book after it comes out and then says ‘peace’, because he thinks I’m a freak or fucked up”?
But it sounds like you get pretty steady business, right? Not everyone can say they’re an award-winning escort!
True. I have little to complain about. I have a good life, and overall, I am very happy.
In one chapter, you talk about dating as an escort. For you, is it easier dating someone who is in the adult industry, or someone who isn’t?
Honestly, I have no clue. That relationship [described in the book] didn’t work for a number of reasons, and I have no solid opinion on whether two escorts can “make it work”. Relationships are all fucked up, so who is to say what works and what doesn’t?
You do speak highly of those you’ve dated (as mentioned in the book), so that’s always good. Are you seeing anyone special now?
No. I was with one guy for a year and we broke up this past fall, but we are still spending a lot of time together. To make a long story short, it is complicated but it’s good. We’re trying to figure things out. I am definitely not opposed to dating either.
Hope springs eternal!
Exactly!
In Chapter 6, you talk about an escorting experience you had with a virgin. It seems like your clients run the gamut. What can clients do to be better prepared for escorts?
That’s a tough one. I have clients who really build up the experience and spend a lot of time anticipating the meeting, but when it comes time to meet, they can’t get it up or cum. They get too stuck in their heads, and it becomes psychological. I do my best to relax them and help them through it, but sometimes, there is little I can do. Maybe practice makes perfect?
Hire more escorts, people! I can imagine that it’s hard for people to get loosened up to enjoy the full hour if they’re stuck in their head.
Especially with the time crunch. Hate to ruin the fantasy…
Time is money!
Right?
Money’s On The Dresser is dedicated to your clients, and you’ve spoken about escorting, in the book, as “a deep human connection and a need to be close to another person”. Has that notion kept you going as you continue to escort?
I think so, yes. I will often have guys who have no interest in me or who I am. They just want a hole to fuck, and I am okay with that. Other times, I will have guys who are genuinely interested in who I am and my story. These are very caring individuals who want a human connection with another man for whatever reason.
A few weeks ago, I had a meeting with a VERY hot guy in his early 30s. He was totally my type, although he didn’t really care about anything other than using my hole. Nothing wrong with that, but I prefer seeing the shy, forty to fifty-something year old man who treats the experience as something special.
Are there any escorting types of experiences you want to have that you haven’t yet? There are a few role-playing scenes that happen in the book.
I feel like I’ve experienced it all. I know a few I’d like to repeat and a few I’d like to stay clear from.
Which ones would you want to repeat? Maybe that one hotel scene in NYC?
Hell yeah! And a few other ones that I remember fondly.
Our audience probably knows you more from your porn work than from your escorting work. Are there plans to write a book more about your time in the adult industry? Maybe Money’s On The Dresser 2: I’ll Show Up When The Check Clears?
LOL! Yeah, I’ve already started the second book that’s focused on the porn side. I’m trying to get the inspiration to write right now. It’s been very busy getting this book out and promoting it, but it is in the works!
I think a lot of people would love to see that behind-the-scenes look at the industry. I know you certainly don’t mince words about porn bloggers and commenters in the book!
Ha! I don’t think I mince words with anything. I don’t mind the bloggers. They’ve been good to me. It’s the commenters who can be the freaks.
YES.
Sometimes, they can be so deranged… Except the ones reading this article. They are flawless.
Naturally! We love you Manhunt Daily commenters. So to wrap things up Christopher, let our fine, flawless commenters know where they can purchase your book.
Please help out a self-published author and buy my book at christopher-daniels.com. Sites like Amazon are great, but they take anywhere from 60-70% in royalties. Above all, just buy the damn book and enjoy!
Agreed! Support self-published authors! Christopher, thanks again so much for taking time out of your day to talk with us!
Of course. Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
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Money’s On The Dresser by Christopher Daniel is available for purchase at christopher-daniels.com. You can also follow Christopher on Facebook and Twitter.
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Great interview! Bought the book, excited to read it.
This was a great interview! Christopher Daniels is sexy as hell — I’d totally take a sexcation to hit that!
Awww baby face when he’s clean-shaven.
” I prefer seeing the shy, forty to fifty-something year old man who treats the experience as something special.” Something special? Is this whore kidding himself? What is “special” about handing $100 to a hooker to bang him for an hour? As far as him stating that the gay community likes to tear down hookers, excuse me, “escorts”, I hate to break it to him but selling your body is nothing to be proud of. Grow up, get a real job and get some self respect.
Grow up, get a life and stop disparaging sex workers.
I think he means in the way that those people are looking for intimacy and not just sex. Don’t get me wrong here I’m not saying that I would applaud someone who is selling themselves for money, but you have to admit he does have a point when he says “Yes, but nobody wants to admit that. It’s okay to be a certain kind of whore”. I mean think about it have you ever been on a date and paid for dinner? It’s not as straight forward as “here is $100 let me fuck you for an hour”, but when you really look at it how different are the two?
I even know a few girls who in college would accept offers for dates from guys they were not even remotely interested in and put out just for a meal when they didn’t have money for it. Because it was a “date” most of society gives them a free pass, but really didn’t they just prostitute there body for a meal?
Honestly I think this book sounds interesting and I will probably end up reading it. You often get a very different and enjoyable view of the world when you get off your high horse.
And here you go tearing down an escort. Bravo, champ.
KINDA LIKE THAT GREAT FAMOUSL LINE IN MOONSTRUCK AFTER THE SENATOR DIES IN THE
BLACK HOOKERS BEDROOM…” MONEY’S ON THE TABLE CHOCOLATE”
Honesty is in short supply and should be admired NOT CONDEMNED! Paying a one-time fee, up front is honest. Many, including me, have invested weeks, months & longer, of valuable time and $$$–only to later expose a relationship ruse. Being duped and used is a lot like rape, except you “consented.” But what you consented to was a sham and you didn’t consent to that–so it’s technically rape. Finding a true relationship takes wisdom & time. Meanwhile, there are times we need more than masturbation. I’ll take an honest fix for that over some farce! If you don’t like it, don’t support it–but don’t knock it for others who appreciate it. Can’t we simply respect differences in taste/opinion? It’s OK to disagree–not condemn!
I don’t understand why people feel the need to voice their negative opinions like it matters. We are all on this planet for a very short time and we should all live our lives how we want. If fucking dudes and getting paid makes ya happy then you be happy. Stop tearing down other and live your life and let him live his.
Jody is a dick sucker