If you’re hooking up with another guy, do you ever enjoy having porn in the background? Or is that an activity best reserved for alone time? That’s the question for today’s edition of the Hot or Not series! Leave a comment with your thoughts, along with any stories in which porn enhanced or ruined your sexual experiences.
Personally, I’ve been on both sides of the fence, and it’s always been best when a guy asks to put on a movie. We’ll start by jerking off on the couch, until it gets to a point where we’re pouncing on one another’s cocks and completely ignoring the television. While this downplays the visual stimulation, you still get the sound of other men grunting, growling and moaning. And those are sounds I love to hear!
On the flip side, there are times when you may feel inadequate in comparison to the models on the screen. If you’re an average guy-next-door and your partner is watching smooth college jocks (like Wesley and Austin), you might feel like you’re the second-place prize. It’s never fun to wonder where he’s focusing his attention.
– Dewitt
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random hookup yes, relationship no. that’s my opinion
It can be hot. Many a time I’ve used porn as a starting point with my partners, then we finish off together. Sometimes we try to do the same positions (with often hilarious effect).
It’s a great way to get started, but… sometimes tastes in porn don’t really mesh.
For instance, one guy I hooked up with started things off by putting on some porn of some really trashy girls getting fucked in the ass. It did nothing for me, but his body did, so I concentrated on him and after he stopped paying attention to it, I closed his laptop with my foot. On reflection, he was awful in bed.
It’s a great way to get started, but… sometimes tastes in porn don’t really mesh.
For instance, one guy I hooked up with started things off by putting on some porn of some really trashy girls getting fucked in the ass. It did nothing for me, but his body did, so I concentrated on him and after he stopped paying attention to it, I closed his laptop with my foot. On reflection, he was awful in bed.
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Depends on the situation … agree it can be hot at times, but other times call for just the sound of you and your partner and nothing else.
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Leave the porn to the experts. I want my guy to give me attention, not to the TV. Once I had a threesome with a guy who was focused on the flick more than my friend and I. Funny thing is that years later I saw him turned into a bareback porn star. The irony of life.
Porn can get you hot. Although, it pretty much takes the personal intimacy(romance) out of the sex.
And, that’s fine, if that’s all you’re interested in 😉
IMO
If you are just going to jo sure. but if you are having sex (to me) says I’m not hot enough to turn you on alone you need some one better to look at.
i like starting off with porn…it almost guarantees both guys getting hot and ready. sometimes the porn gives new ideas for further bedroom play which can enhance everything whether you are lovers or not
Hot yes, but not all the time. When outdoors it would be strange to bring a portable DVD player along…lol.
As a rule, yes, I like to have porn running while playing. More often than not it does become a soundtrack to my and my partner’s – or partners’ – activity. If the video in question is showing something that we both/all find hot, it can serve to heighten things, sometimes significantly. I tend to prefer porn that features more ‘regular’ guys so there’s less of an issue of the actors being impossible-to-equal examples of manflesh. Even if the actors are exceptional in any particular way, I’m completely confident that what I an doing with, to and for my playmate/s will more than adequately occupy their attention.
Hot
I dunno. Unless he’s doing a handstand
With legs spread wide
With a cock down my throat for balance,
I often get an obscured view of the TV
Not so much…When he comes to my place I never have it on…Hell, half the time I never have the television on at all. When he gets there the computer is turned off and I totally concentrate on him. Most of the time when I go to someone elses house for a hook-up and they have it on it’s usually a distraction for me…and now that I think about it the sex was usually bad when they had porn on during hook-ups.
Nope. Porn is reserved for “alone time”. My partner of three years is more than enough to get my motor humming when we’re together.
Couldn’t have said it better.
porn during sex.
no, i don’t think i can get into that — i can’t (and don’t want to?) divide my visual attention like that.
as a matter-of-fact, that last paragraph which dewitt wrote jarred me — believe it or not, that scenario he described there just hadn’t occurred to me. (but, only because i don’t have sex with porn in the background — so, i had no reason to ever think about it.)
that would be a deal•breaker for me, if
i suspectedit’s confirmed that my partner is fantasizing about some other bloake, because i’m just some “consolation prize” for him, until he can “get something better.”***since i am an average person, and not a Gym God, it’s not unreasonable for me to worry over such things***
honestly, for me, Erotic Media (as employed for the explicit purpose of sexual arousal, to orgasming) is alone time stuff.
ya gotta have your attention focused on one or the other.
y’know?
Have you all seen the “Sex and the City” episode where Miranda dates the guy who is much more obsessed with his porn than a real live playing partner? This pretty much sums it up! If a guy needs porn playing to have sex, he must be choosing the wrong partners…real life playmates are infinitely better than pron on a TV/laptop…plus, the music and “fake noises” are really distracting and often comical…a hot guy is all I need to get excited…if I cannot not excite my partner or he cannot excite me, then perhaps porn is not the answer…perhaps we should chose better/more exciting partners! Porn? Solo, baby, if ever…
Porn during sex can be great, it depends on the situation and the guy and it should never ever be the focus. Also, it should be the kind that doesn’t have a soundtrack, hearing guys having sex can add to it, lame porn music does not.
I think it’s a great addition. Perhaps it will inspire those of us watching it to step up the fun or do something they’re doing on TV. The background noise is always a nice thing…except for this new continuous loud breath thing that they’re doing. If it’s 3 or more guys all doing it, it sounds like a field of cows mooing up the place. Put on an old Jeff Stryker video and let that potty mouth fucker say what needs to be said. Can’t compete with him (or anyone from BelAmi) but who needs to. Let them be all super sexy and hung because I’m in person so I get all the benefits of their hard work. Sounds like a win-win to me. Okay, mostly a win for me.
when the guy is hot there is no needs
I always felt that porn, like a good meal, is an experience best shared. Me and my boyfriend always joke about how we never like to watch porn together. He’s a small guy and I’m a bigger guy. We’re totally turned on by each other, but not turned on by each other’s porn. We always say that if we find a porn we both like, will wear out our DVD player. Until then, we enjoy our porn separately and each other together
Watching porn together is my secret weapon in getting curious straight guys into bed! – even more effective than booze.
After all, it’s not “gay”-it’s just two guys watching the movie (at least at first)
I’ve done it both in relationships and in random hook-ups and I totally dig it. It reminds me of the sex parties/orgies I’ve been to. The orgasm just seems so much better when others are around.
A straight mate of mine and I ended up having this threesome with a girl inhis bedroom after a few drinks….pretty random. But we thought it would be funny(after the high-fiving, etc ran out) to put on some porn of a threesome and do whatever they did. When the video showed one guy sucking the other off, I ‘had no choice’ but to take my mate’s dick in my mouth, and he sucked me too, whilst we both fucked this girl. We’ve told people the 3some story to the guys, locker room chat and that, but we’ve never told them about me and him (at least, I haven’t, anyway). It was awesome, but we’ve never got together since. When in Rome!
Porn can be good for a first time hook-up. You’re hard and horny when it’s arranged but sometimes get nervous and limp when he’s on the way over. It can help two get hard and horny. If the sex is not so great then you can fantasize about what is on screen. It is great for leading into mutual jo or bj’s and really great for
trying something with the straight or curious. If I know the guy and he’s hot, he’s all I need.
No, if I am with an attractive guy that turn me on sexually, I don’t need to watch porn. What would be the purpose?