Every bottom or versatile guy knows that there are just times when you don't want to be fucked. They also know that there are times when they can be convinced otherwise. Every good top should know when to take no for an answer, but they should also know the tricks to get him on all fours, screaming "Take me!"
Massage him: Getting fucked requires relaxation. Offer to rub down your partner, starting with his neck, shoulders and back. Gradually move down to his ass cheeks and legs, gently kneading them with your hands. If the mood is right, you can even give his butt a little smack. He may clench a little with that sensation, but it'll feel even better when you massage out that tension.
Rim him: Not every guy loves to be rimmed, especially on days when he doesn't want to be fucked. Lick, kiss or gently nibble on his cheeks, inner thighs or lower back. If he responds to this, gradually move closer to tonguing his hole. Key word: gradual. Also, be sure to use some of these rimjob tips!
Use your magic touch: If you're familiar with your partner, you probably know he has certain "spots", and they should be utilized when necessary. If he's new to you, try gently tapping his hole with your index and middle fingers or very gently making circles on the area where his crack meets his back. Another technique? Get him in the spoon position and use your entire palm to brush against his hole, taint and balls. That last one works wonders on me!
Hop in the shower with him: Oftentimes, bottoms will resist getting fucked because they're not confidently clean down there. If you hop in the shower together (or separately if you prefer), he may be a little more receptive.
These are just a few tips that I could come up with, so feel free to share your own! Since different things work on different people, we'd love to hear from all the bottoms what gets them going.
– Dewitt
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This is one of the best series of columns I’ve seen here. The ideas are great and well thought-out … and the visual aids aren’t bad, either 🙂
you forgot the most important one: give him time. say something like, “hey hun, i’m going to head upstairs, you should come join me soon” that way, if he knows its been a while since he’s taken a dump, he can go rectify the situation, and then head upstairs to join you. you came close with the shower thing, but not quite all the way, because he’s not gonna have a shit while you are standing there in the bathroom with him, its just super awkward.
another tip: actually be interested in him, and fuck him because you want to.
I’d love to contribute, but I don’t believe I’ve ever not been in the mood to bottom (unless I’m vomit-up-a-lung sick or just not into the guy).
Amonust is right, though. If you’re gonna be spontaneous, you’ve at least gotta give us a chance to go take a dump and a shower. Maybe give us a few minutes and then join us once we’re in the shower.
I guess I’m weird if I can’t take a dump spontaneously or on command @_@
as a total top, except for tongue, Iknow Iknow, I’m boring that way…men..clean those holes..I don’t know who it’s more embarrassing for, me or the bottom..but once that ”seal” is broken, and my dick gets painted, sorry–i’m soft. Men..especially you bottoms, hairy or smooth, eat your fiber dammit. I’m usually one who does the sniff test (and can’t believe the amount of bottoms out there who have the nerve to out the house without washin yo ass)..if that passes, then it’s the finger test (all in the name of foreplay of course…well actually it is foreplay cause if that doesn’t pass, it’s no play and we just stick to oral)..if that passes, then my tongue gets a boner, and I’m there…hairy or not. I put up with enough shit from my husband, but not literally…but with a mantoy? ohhelltotheno.