This week’s tips come courtesy of sex expert Michael Alvear and are all about making yourself last longer in bed. If you’ve ever wished you could fuck that hot guy all night, instead of the usual 5 minutes, these tips will come in very handy!
Alvear has written books and hosted HBO’s The Sex Inspectors amongst other accomplishments, so his advice can definitely help some of you guys. He has also authored two e-books that are all about helping men meet the hottest guy in room, you can check them out here.
– Andy
For Alvear’s tips, follow the JUMP:
Taken from Alvear’s blog:
* Stop/Start. When you’re alone, masturbate until you get close to the point of no return then STOP. Do nothing but focus on the sensation of your penis. The urge to orgasm will subside within 3 minutes. Start masturbating again. Do this over and over and you’ll find you’ll last longer and longer.
* Pace. Now masturbate until you get close to coming and instead of stopping, slow down. PACE. Change the speed of your stroke, the pressure and the site of your grip (go from the head, where there’s more nerve endings, to the shaft where there’s less).
* Stop/Start with a Hottie. Have a boyfriend or date masturbate you until you get close to “ejaculatory inevitability” then have him STOP. Basically, follow step 1 only your boyfriend’s doing the work and you’re doing the refereeing.
* Pace Together. Now have your boyfriend masturbate you until you get close to coming and instead of stopping, PACE.
* Top on the Bottom. Don’t top missionary style—it’s harder to relax and concentrate on sensations. Lie flat on your back with your partner sitting on your sausage. Don’t move. Get acclimatized for as long as it takes. Now use the stop/start/pacing method. First, gently thrust up and down. Getting close? Stop. Wait a few minutes. Now have him move up and down. Close? Pace.
* Missionary Style! Enter him when you’re on top. Start moving. S-l-o-w-l-y. Keep using the Stop/Start/Pace method throughout. If your boyfriend or date is any good, he’ll pretend it hurts–that way you’ll feel like you’ve got a big one. Every guy who bottoms knows that a well-timed “Ow!” is the best way to inflate a man’s ego.
* Stop/Start. When you’re alone, masturbate until you get close to the point of no return then STOP. Do nothing but focus on the sensation of your penis. The urge to orgasm will subside within 3 minutes. Start masturbating again. Do this over and over and you’ll find you’ll last longer and longer.
* Pace. Now masturbate until you get close to coming and instead of stopping, slow down. PACE. Change the speed of your stroke, the pressure and the site of your grip (go from the head, where there’s more nerve endings, to the shaft where there’s less).
* Stop/Start with a Hottie. Have a boyfriend or date masturbate you until you get close to “ejaculatory inevitability” then have him STOP. Basically, follow step 1 only your boyfriend’s doing the work and you’re doing the refereeing.
* Pace Together. Now have your boyfriend masturbate you until you get close to coming and instead of stopping, PACE.
* Top on the Bottom. Don’t top missionary style—it’s harder to relax and concentrate on sensations. Lie flat on your back with your partner sitting on your sausage. Don’t move. Get acclimatized for as long as it takes. Now use the stop/start/pacing method. First, gently thrust up and down. Getting close? Stop. Wait a few minutes. Now have him move up and down. Close? Pace.
* Missionary Style! Enter him when you’re on top. Start moving. S-l-o-w-l-y. Keep using the Stop/Start/Pace method throughout. If your boyfriend or date is any good, he’ll pretend it hurts–that way you’ll feel like you’ve got a big one. Every guy who bottoms knows that a well-timed “Ow!” is the best way to inflate a man’s ego.
Hehe. I’m a great bottom!
I have another way of lasting longer just climax once, then rest a while then try to go at it again until you come a second time…I’ve made love to a guy long enough for him to cum four times in about three hours….Now that was a fun night!!!
thats camp i love the end so very true…i usually do the same as daddycentaur usually always have a couple loads.. im gna try..
If I am going to hook up with a hottie and have a long session planned, I usually take myself in hand before the event – getting that first climax out of the way allows me to ride the guys ass for much much longer and doing this before hooking up means that I am ready for it when we meet and there is no stop/start to the proceedings
you know i kinda miss your Column here on manhunt, mikey.
and how the hell can you speed things up? I take forever to get off and would love to know how to do it faster… any guides for that??
i have the opposite problem – my boyfriend can fuck endlessly
but i just can’t take it for long sometimes
and need to ask him to stop fucking me
our longest was 9 hours lol.
that time i didnt really feel the need to stop, i was just scared of consequences of such a long fuck and asked him to finally cum..
The male ejaculatory response is habituated. If you cum too fast, it is because that is how you trained yourself, usually during masturbation in adolescence.
If you take too long to cum, that is also because you’ve likely habituated yourself that way, eg. extended masturbatory sessions with porn or in circle jerks.
The solution to either is to rehabituate oneself. In the case of the latter, it often means to stop masturbating altogether.
I guess I don’t really understand the point of trying to have sex forever. I particularly am kinda freaked out by the post by Nex above talking about a continuous 9hour fuck. I’m suprised the top didnt die of exhaustion and the bottom didnt either get so numb or start bleeding. It sounds positively ridiculous, stupid, and frankly completely unappealing.
And this whole start and stop method is just really lame and actually doesn’t really work the way it is supposed to. First of all, stopping fucking for 3-4min kinda ruins the whole thing. And stopping yourself right before ejaculation isnt like pressing a restart button on your dick. Once you come close to ejaculation you will reach it again very quickly if you start stimulating your cock again after a short rest period.
Here’s a thought. How bout after a heavy foreplay session, you fuck for like 15-20min. Once you are finished, take a break. If you have a decent sex drive, you’ll be horny again in no time. And then you dont have to deal with all these tips and tricks bullshit.
Nex dude, please tell your boyfriend to just finish it up already. Keep it under 30min.
I’m a total vers…and I love to work my ass and stomach muscles when I get fucked, it drives men crazy but, its seems that if I don’t warn most guys…and tell them to stop or slow down, they cum in like three minutes…I wanna get fucked much longer than that, and yes, I enjoy the feeling of a man just laying on top of me with his hard cock just pulsing while he regains his composure.
I can’t believe that men in this day and age think that good sex is over in under 10 minutes…what the fuck is up with that.
You go to all the trouble to get ready, clean up, clean out…maybe have some cocktails, make out, have oral…then get to the main event and its over before you can get your ass muscles relaxed and “really” enjoy it…come on guys that was the kind of sex we had in our 20’s…I want some long drawn out sensual, mind bending, toe curling, roll your eyes back in your head sex that goes on forever, where you end up sweaty and exhausted with shakey legs you can hardly stand on…
Fuck that quicky shit I”d just as soon beat off…listen to what you’re being told…if your average sex session (I mean over 25% or the time) is over, at least the fucking part, in under 20 to 30 minutes you’re not doing it right and don’t know what “great” sex is.
Sure the occasional quicky serves it’s purpose, but…get into it! Don’t be selfish, learn some control…it’s amazing, take your partner and yourself to places you’ve never been before!