Last week, one of our favorite men Rocky LaBarre posted a series of tweets about fucking. Well, we should probably specify–advice on fucking. His tips extend beyond the typical crap you’d read on the internet, given they’re based upon twenty-five years of experience and professional classes on anatomy and physiology. They don’t just tell you what to do when you’re topping someone. They explain, to a greater extent, why you’re doing it.
Whether you’re a fan of Rocky or not, this is a must-read for anyone who enjoys sticking his dick in other guy’s butts. Hell, even I learned a few things! Click through for a short excerpt from this lesson, or head over here for the whole thing. And if you really appreciate the advice, you can return the favor by voting for Rocky in this week’s edition of The Ten.
– Dewitt
To read an excerpt of Rocky’s advice, follow the JUMP:
“…I’ll skip the taint, except as a landmark: The taint (Perineum) is a ‘Road’ of pleasure nerves. If a bottom is on his back, trace the taint to the anus. Where the taint “meets” it is approx where the first landmark is. It’s slightly in the anus but on that upper wall. I call this little bundle of nerves the ‘clit’ because it’s placed ‘North’ in the butt. Playing with it turns the ass on. Guys who eat ass know this.
“So a good top traces the taint and plays with it and the clit. It’s what I call ‘Petting the pussy’. You always get friendly with it first. You have to gain trust. Tell the guy you don’t care, that you will take all the time in the world, and MEAN it. Get it wet, decrease friction. (I love using silicone lube.) SIDENOTE: Trim your nails! Every massage therapist and stud lesbian knows this. Learn it!
“Okay, you got the overview that the nervous system gives pain/pleasure on the same pathways and you learned landmark number one. Ready for number two?”
If you’re ready for more advice, head over here to read Rocky’s whole lesson. And if you’re interested in learning more? Be sure to follow @RockyLaBarre on Twitter or schedule a hands-on lesson through Masseur Finder.
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL…what a fucking joke…expert?…n Judas was a great PR man for Jesus…I have been fucking for over 25 years, have degrees in Science, Human Nature and Life Studies…damn I am an expert too…lol
On the whole, this really sucks! (See what I did there?) This is not advanced A&P. I knew this stuff before I graduated from high school. Did anyone else notice that he seemed to think you play with the prostate BEFORE you get to the inner sphincter?
Dewitt, you sadden me with this.
To the gentlemen who have previously commented, this isn’t necessarily something that you might find useless, but I can definitely say that the majority of men who I’ve dabbled with that are 35 and younger don’t know how to cater to a bottom’s pleasure aside from “jam it in”.
It’s good advice for the nooblets, and it’s not just “play with the hole and make them comfortable”, it’s giving tactics. Most kids learn from pornos, but don’t realize how edited those pornos are.
I can’t stand people who are haters because they didn’t think of writing a book or giving advice first. I didn’t know much of this stuff and it certainly helped me. Where is you advice Domtoppapi? Or how about yours Rickin1986? since both of you know SO much more than this guy. Put up or shut up, I say.
First, I have nothing against Mr. LaBarre. But I have to wonder, Dewitt does he have something on you? Incriminating photos, some dark secret? Cuz not only does he get plenty of space on this blog, but you campaign for him on the “10”‘all the time.
As to the topic at hand, I can’t stand it when men’s body parts are referred to with female nomenclature. If any guy uttered the words clit and “petting the pussy” while we we having sex, he’d be out the door in a heartbeat. I don’t have a clit or pussy, I’m a man who has an ass that I love to get fucked in. Period!
I know enough to know when NOT to give advice. I also know enough to point out when people are giving incorrect advice. That’s all I did.
The point is u dont need a “book” from an “expert” when u experience life…stop reading crap and go live it…for example if ur reading my “crap” as well, then that is just sad…too many Operas, Dr. “Who Gives a Fuck” Phils, and all their clones…suck, fuck, lick, finger, taste, kiss, hold, plow, embrace, n get with it!
The point is u dont need a “book” from an “expert” when u experience life…stop reading crap and go live it…for example if ur reading my “crap” as well, then that is just sad…too many Operas, Dr. “Who Gives a Fuck” Phils, and all their clones…suck, fuck, lick, finger, taste, kiss, hold, plow, embrace, n get with it!
I think this is good advice for every gay man to read, top or bottom. I knew some of this, but not all. I’m sure there was at least one or two tidbits in there even for the most knowledable men. And I know more than one top I’ve had in the past that knew NONE of this stuff.
Timberg41: Exactly what I was thinking! I was married for many years in my “former life” so I’ve been there and done that. Referencing a man’s masculine body is no place to use these kind of references. I stopped reading when I hit those phrases…
I agree that the terms ‘pussy’ and ‘clit’ for a man I’m loving is no-go. But as a top, I hear a lot from btms that the kind of advice given here would be very handy indeed for many tops. There are plenty of guys who dont even know that the second sphincter exists, or the value of warming up the hole. Well done – this is a good constructive post. Thanks
and p.s. – If the btms reead this they will learn to expect better topping – a bonus for mankind!
The pussy? The clit? I’m a bottom man, not a woman. For me it’s a turn off when a top thinks of my anatomy in female terms.
I guess I understand the aversion to the female anatomy references, I couldn’t care less what you call my body parts…whatever turns a man on is good for me…it’s how you treat them…but I’ll tell you guys this…I’m a total vers and love most aspects of man sex, and it never ceases to amaze me how many men seem to be able to make it to their 40’s and 50’s and have no idea what good sex looks or feels like.
They think kissing means shoving their tongue as far into your mouth as they can get it, as soon as your lips meet, and rubbing some lube on their cock is all the foreplay a man’s ass needs…
I didn’t see any information here that wouldn’t be helpful to tops or bottoms, and nothing that was totally inaccurate.
You guys all may be ‘experienced or experts” but let’s admit it…there are a lot of guys out there who can use some coaching…
Count on the bitchy queens to be the first ones to preach about how they know better. Stop getting mad because you got beat to the damn punch when it came down to giving the advice. On top of that, who’s to say that he posted that for a couple of his friends because he probably did. All I know is that there are a LOT of gay men out there that could use some advice like this, especially for those that are curious or trying to be comfortable with gay anal sex period.
For the love of Cher (had to throw that small joke in there), stop hating so damn much and worry about you.
Not every damn topic that is posted on MD is about you!
Dude…it’s not a pussy. It’s not a clit. We aren’t women.
He goes out of his way to try to use correct anatomical (admirable) then screws it all up by using slang that is colloquial to feminine anatomy. And this is somehow supposed to make people better ‘tops’.
Sure the ‘queens’ blasting him for posting advice have no excuse but some of us would have actually taken his advice in a serious manner had he just written a guide on how to fuck a guy: not a woman.
First thing, I think Rocky is sexy to look at in photos…however, as a “sex-pert” in fucking, I think I could give him a few “fucking lessons”, as it were…I also have a degree in science and worked in the medical field for over 10 years…I was also a professional masseur…and way before any of that, I began as a Top…anyone who has to use “female terms” to describe the male anatomy is no expert! I do not want to think of terms like “taint”, “clit”, and “pussy” when I am rimming or fucking a guy’s ass! Talk about ruining the moment! However, one word of “expert” advice I would give to any guy wanting to be a good Top is to give a great rimjob before attempting to stick anything inside, including well-manicured fingers…rimming adds a “natural” lube as well as relaxes the anal opening…and, because of all those nerve endings Rocky alluded to, it gets the bottom very excited and ready to take whatever it is you have to offer…and bottoms, be sure if you even THINK there is a possibility that rimming/fucking will be involved in your planned “activities, be sure to clean yourself well close to the time of the planned activities! If you don’t have one of the many types of shower attachments out there on the market, then go to a local drugstore and get a disposable kit…the expression “cleanliness is next to godliness” surely was intended to describe the “heavenly” experience of the rimjob and fucking, for both the giver and the receiver!
Rick, perhaps you need to re-read the full posting. I don’t see where he indicates that you get to the prostate before the sphincter. Remember, simply because you know something it doesn’t mean that everyone does. I’m sure this information will be very helpful to someone so good on him for sharing.
Good lord, the whiners are out in full force today. Good on Rocky for sharing this information with guys. As an erotic educator and a practicing top AND bottom, I know there is a need for more information out there. Most guys seem to get their topping training from porn and so they think that a quick kiss, yanking down the underwear, spitting on the bottoms asshole and then shoving their cock in is how it goes. And unless you’re in a porn, it is NOT the way to go.
Yes, using female terms for male bodies may not be the best way to go about it but perhaps he was trying to educate former straight guys…or maybe even females who want to introduce their male partners to the joys of assplay. What it comes down to is that if you know all that he has shared, great, move along and pat yourself on the back for having the knowledge but know that there are those who do NOT know it and so the information was meant for them not you. Knowledge is power and we only get more knowledge by keeping an open mind. When we think we know it all, nothing new can get in. Stay open to more knowledge guys, there’s always more we can learn. Thanks for posting this Dewitt and thanks for sharing Rocky.
Good lord, the whiners are out in full force today. Good on Rocky for sharing this information with guys. As an erotic educator and a practicing top AND bottom, I know there is a need for more information out there. Most guys seem to get their topping training from porn and so they think that a quick kiss, yanking down the underwear, spitting on the bottoms asshole and then shoving their cock in is how it goes. And unless you’re in a porn, it is NOT the way to go.
Yes, using female terms for male bodies may not be the best way to go about it but perhaps he was trying to educate former straight guys…or maybe even females who want to introduce their male partners to the joys of assplay. What it comes down to is that if you know all that he has shared, great, move along and pat yourself on the back for having the knowledge but know that there are those who do NOT know it and so the information was meant for them not you. Knowledge is power and we only get more knowledge by keeping an open mind. When we think we know it all, nothing new can get in. Stay open to more knowledge guys, there’s always more we can learn. Thanks for posting this Dewitt and thanks for sharing Rocky.
You TOOL… that’s because the INNER sphincter is PAST the POSTATE.
There are 2 sphincters you dropout.
Your posts get more stupid with each passing day!
Do you even THINK before you write???
Again….
No.
You DON’T.
Go back to your bad sex and shut upa while.
You’re embarrassing yourself.
Thanks Buddy…
Originally this was simply a series of tweets.
I couldn’t sleep after oral surgery so I was on Twitter. The conversation turned to sex. Then technique.
At one point (at about 4AM) the guys were enjoying the info feed so much that they were worried about getting to work the next day.
So I told them I would cut-n-paste the tweets into a “Twit Longer” so they’d get everything the next day.
The rest is history.
Then it got RT’ on Twitter from guy to guy, then guy to Blog. Then the Blogs started asking to reprint it.
(Manhunt being the first.)
If you don’t mind, I’ll address a few things:
1) These tips are given with the idea that I’m addressing tops (and bottoms) with LITTLE experience so that they don’t have to STUMBLE THRU YEARS of BAD SEX before they get good at it.
2) Very experienced tops will know all or most of this. But isn’t it so much better great when something that you might take years to learn from trial & error can be boiled down into one place?
3) This is just an outline. If more tops knew why & how certain hotspots work, they can ONLY become better tops by addressing them!
4) What was deleted in my one (admittedly rough) edit was the tweets where I mentioned that “I” call certain parts ‘the clit” or “petting the pussy”. And I apologised to my followers if that’s not their fave choice of wording. I said “Call it whatever works for you”.
So if during a tweet I my calling a guy’s parts disturbs YOU remember 2 things:
1) I had 140 characters at a time to squeeze my thoughts into.
2) Get over it. You’re missing good information. Think princibles not personality.
5) Yes I have 25 years of “hands on” experience in this field including the last 12 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist.
🙂
For the haters out there:
Whatever. You’re lousy tops! I have no respect for lousy tops.
Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion.
Rimming is fine.
Understand that this was at first a series of tweets and I could easily name everything under the sun and confuse the readers.
A sideline into rimming would have been a whole tutorial on its own.
The problem with many “How To” books and articles is that they can give too much info.
This is supposed to be a cheat sheet.
The path I chose was to be simple & efficient. I wanted to identify the pain/pleasure centers in a more linear fashion. I start w/ fingers so I end with fingers.
Most men can’t address the prostate w their tongues and certainly can’t get near the 2nd sphincter. So I left it out for now.
Ssf, you could teach me a few things? Probably you could.
I’m sure I could teach you a few things too.
Peace
I gotta weigh in with the guys who liked this! THIS IS GREAT! I won’t let a guy under 30 fuck me cuz they DON’T know what they’re doing! How many times have I been stabbed in the ass by some “TOP” who doesn’t get the layout. of a butthole?
Or big dick guys who think cuz its big their doing it right… Or rammers!
I rest my case.
Well, if 140 characters is a problem, “ass” is shorter than “pussy” by two. You can call it whatever you want, but if your object is to attract readers, you’d do well to consider your potential audience and what percentage of them are going to be turned off by talk of “pussy” and “clit” (whether or not a disclaimer is included). My guess is you’ll lose a lot of readers for the sake of using your favorite pet terms that offend many.
I thought it was great too! And for the record, I’ve had some guys over 30 who I’ve had horrible sex with because they thought these things too…being bad at sex isn’t exclusive to men in their 20s.
I thought it was great too! And for the record, I’ve had some guys over 30 who I’ve had horrible sex with because they thought these things too…being bad at sex isn’t exclusive to men in their 20s.
Hey Rocky…first of all, I consider you a very sexy man, my type definitely (no, im not sucking up, just wanted to be friendly and compliment you ^_^). Second, I really enjoyed your tweet, and to me it seems more about answering specific questions your followers asked, and not about writing a book on Topping for dummies. Third, I actually prefer being fingered to being rimmed, sometimes over getting fucked…so this tweet was very…lets say arousing to read lol. And last, I think your entitled to call it pussy, clit or whatever, I mean it is YOUR post, and your not sitting at borders autographing ur tweets, so…who cares about your audience, whoever likes it reads, who doesnt like it, doesnt have to read it. I personally like having mine called that way lol, but Im not psycho-demanding about it either, more like enjoying it in the heat of the moment. Well thats all, probably the biggest post i’ve ever written here. Thanx for sharing ur own personal tips Rocky! Take care. And Happy 2011 everyone!
I like it. I’m a man. I look like one, smell like one…I’m a fuckin man. But when another man can make me his bitch, I fuckin LOVE it. Not many can but its happened.
Legs in the air some huge dude making me say pussy and cunt while he turns it into one. Humiliating and hot.
Gonna go jerk off now.