There’s an art to dirty text messages, and it’s not very easy to master. A key goal is to hit your target when you anticipate he’s at his horniest. Or at least when provided with an opportunity to bring him to that level of horniness.
It’s not going to mean much if you text a guy right after your hook-up. If you’ve done your job properly, he’s blown a load or two, and sex might not be the first thing that’s on his mind. You need to get him when he least expects it, preferably at a time when you can follow up with the real thing.
I’ve always had the best success rate of texting guys while they’re at work. However, you don’t want to bombard them with seventeen-million messages. Just be flirty enough to give him an inappropriate boner on the job, and maybe even send a naughty picture or two. It’ll definitely put a smile on his face to know that you’ll be waiting for him naked after a hellish day at the office (or wherever he may work).
Since I’m no professional when it comes to these techniques, we’d love to hear some of your tricks or comments on the etiquette of sexting! What’s worked for you in the past? Is there anything other guys have done that’s driven you crazy in a bad way?
– Dewitt
Hot pics while he’s at work ALWAYS do the trick but not to sleazy just kind of kinky with a little bit of allure!
Not everyone can respond right away, and there is nothing more irritating than, someone getting all pissy and saying…WHY WONT YOU REPLY TO MY MESSAGES,, that makes me want to not reply even more
Dunno bout the naughty picture bit. I sent a guy who was hot hot hot for me a very naughty picture, but little did I know he was not out to his boss or anyone else for that matter. Guess who picked up his phone and checked the message. No prizes if you guessed it was his boss, who then outed him to his whole work crew who then told his girlfriend. Hmmmmm maybe it serves him right for leading me up the garden path but I nevertheless felt very bad for him.
Definitely agree with Rory, nothing worse than getting back to a phone full of freak-out texts. Best way to kill a hook-up buddy relationship is when he gets all drama like that.
This “freak out” problem must be a “happening” occurence! Talk about a boner kill! “What did I do wrong?” “Where’d you go?” “Why aren’t you responding??!?” Umm…. Dude.. It was twenty seconds ago. LOL Sheesh!
Or like those STUPID one word text messages like HI .
The one word texts are the WORST
I never reply lol.
Why would anyone ever follow up a text with something like “Why won’t you answer me?” If they do, they don’t deserve to have a mobile phone OR to get laid. I see nothing wrong with sending the message anytime, even at work, and waiting patiently for a reply. And I agree with the first post, something alluring, but not too much. Make him want it, don’t give it to him already!
the worst thing a guy has done with me is try to have full-on cyber sex with me via text. you know, he said what he wanted to do to me, and i said “that sounds hot…”, and then he said what he’d do next. then after that. then after that.
yeah, i have unlimited texting, but the phone doesn’t need to light up every 15 seconds.
send him a text as to make him think your texting someone else and he will definately get curious
love getting dirty texts from my bf while im at work knowing that hes thinking about me puts a smile on my face and makes my day then everyone has to wonder what the hell hes smiling about the rest of the day
I once had a guy who texted me about 70 times in 3 days, when I’d only probably replied about 6 times. I then sent a text saying ‘all this texting is creepy and desperate’. He then kept on resending a message 3 times a day for a week, starting with ‘sorry for all the msgs’ – How stupid can you get?
funny how the replies mostly focused on negative experiences and the view positive ones were somewhat vague…
I personally never sext (live in a city where our former mayor is in jail for, among many things, sexting an aide)….
but I have had some hot exchanges via IM on Facebook, and probably the reason why they were hot was because the sex was very hot to begin with, so even saying hello recalled the lay…..
hot sex sometimes require u to say absolutely nothing…
I wait until after dinner, the news and then I know my sexy as hell negro friend is nice and relaxed.
Then I send a text that reads something like “Just had a warm bath and hankering after that hard black cock of yours deep in my ass”
Well fuck me stupid, the next thing I know I’ve got the invite and I’m off down the street, knocking on his door!
@Eric
“negro” friend!?! what is this 1941 how about black or african american thanks! Eww i hope you never call him that to his face because if it were me you’d never hear from this “negro” friend again…
V-8 i totally agree with you there is always negative response when ppl are asked for some positive feedback which leads me to think that most of the ppl on here are not really happy with there life and are quite miserable 🙂
and Eric seriously whats with tat post?
who the hell says something like that?
im guessing you are one of those ppl who prefer only men of color right, will guess what kido, life has already passed you by 🙁
So… We are getting upset at Eric because he used a word that you don’t like? Sheesh. He didn’t use the “N-word”. Get over it. I’m sure he has just as much respect for “men of color” as any of you others do. I’m sick of the hyphenated American thing period. We all are Amercians (at least the ones who post on here from America, duh). Maybe Eric isn’t from America, so his friend technically wouldn’t be an “African-Amercian.
Maybe I’m Cuacasion American. Or Vanilla American. Maybe I should take offense to being called white.
Here’s the point. He meant NOTHING negative by his post! NOTHING. Leave him alone.
the word negro is offensive ToddM don’t dictate what I can or cannot be offended, thanks!
…can or cannot be offended by, thanks!
I can’t dictate, nor will I. But there are a whole lot of things that are MUCH more important about getting your undies in a wad than a word. I’m just saying, in the grand scheme of things, it’s stupid. If he had intended to put black men down, that would be one thing. But he didn’t. To be offended by this is foolish. Thin skinned. Do you think it matters to the black children dying of AIDS in Africa? Or the black people that are homeless on the streets? I’m just saying, Pick and choose your battles. This is petty. Does it change the way you live tomorrow? How you are treated by everyone that matters to you? No.
If he had come on here and said, “You negros need to get out and work.” “You negros should go back to Africa”… Then I could see your point. But that was NOT his intent. Get over it!
I can’t believe nobody’s mentioned the hot guy in the post pic. Woof!!!
I have a little hottie, that all he has to text is, “You free after work?”
I know exactly what it means, that he’ll be at my place about 30 mins after I get home…
I prefer his text to come after lunch, so I don’t have to wait so long, and be boned ‘all’ day at work…
I text back, “Yep, can’t wait!”
and that’s all it takes for both of us to be smiling the rest of the day at work, and for me still smiling the next morning…LOL!
I like short texts…
I sext my man all the time. They’re usually short and sweet, and i usually get the reply some time later, “Thanks for the boner….i had to run into the bathroom till it went down.” We have this thing where i’ll text what im going to use to turn him on that night. So a 1 word text saying “tongue” or “fingertips” gets his mind going and he can’t wait to get out of work.