Mason Wyler is like my new Carrie Prejean. I want to stop writing about him, but then he goes and says or does something completely unbelievable or foolish. On my last post about him, one of you left a comment stating, "let us know when he starts doing BARE BACK porn and maybe we will have something to say…MAYBE!!"
Well, the fact of the matter is that Mason has already done bareback porn, but I have something even better for you to talk about. In Wyler's latest post, the new king of controversy (move over Michael Lucas!) discusses his crush on porn star Brock Armstrong. He writes, "What makes him even hotter (in my opinion) is that he loves to fuck and get fucked, bareback. That's right, I said it makes him hotter that he loves bareback sex."
In my opinion, if a porn star wants to make bareback porn, that's their risk to take. But to glorify it? That's just plain wrong. It just seems irresponsible to promote bareback sex in a time where 1 in 20 Washington DC residents are infected with HIV. You can call me puritanical if you want… safe sex is hot sex!
– Dewitt
I agree. . .safe sex is hot!
Fuck you Dewitt. Your ‘opinion’ is preachy and arrogant.
Bareback sex IS glorious and wonderful. Safe sex is annoying and complicated. Raw feels better, it looks better. The intensity is wonderful, whether it is simply nasty dirty fun or the crowning moment of intimacy.
Educating people is one thing( one desperately needed thing, no question – SOOOO many neg guys really have no clue about risks or about what living with HIV/STDs entails) but preaching is something else entirely. Everyone has the right to choose for themselves whether or not to take the risks.( Though, it IS a shame that so few people understand them. Poz guys are always shocked by how knowledgeable I am, it is so sad to hear them tell me that they have never met a neg barebacker who knows as much as I do about HIV. If you are going to risk it, people, at least know what you’re dealing with!)
E-man will eventually be poz. It’s just a matter of time.
Bareback sex is great – in a committed relationship. In porn, bareback sex is ridiculous. I can’t believe anyone would think that bareback sex is okay in a “no-strings-attached” arrangement. Too many young guys are watching this porn… is that the message that should be sent? That bareback sex is okay?!
In porn, bareback sex is like working as a construction worker without a helmet. Yes, you might not get crushed by falling debris one day, but you are teasing the odds. it’s a job.
Anyone who equates porn with real life is missing the point of porn. It’s a fantasy, sure, but it’s no one’s first day on the job.
Well, I am willing to take that risk, bareback sex is hotter, and for me, condoms are just that awful.
Nobody has the right to make the decision for me, or anyone else – and it’s pretty damn rude to try to tell me how I should conduct my sex life. I am tested every month now. Been barebacking for… 7, 8 years? Between 8 and 20 partners per year… Statistically, probably am due. But unless I get a new boyfriend and we decide to be monogamous, I have no intention of changing my sex habits any time soon. I lecture every single guy I bareback with about the risks. Educate, don’t preach.
OK Educate:
If you engage in unprotected sex you WILL become HIV positive based on the stats of your area and the amount of time you participate in unprotected sex.
This is a fact and it is something you can take to the bank.
That is more like ignorance than education. And there are exceptions – though I certainly wouldn’t recommend anyone count on being such an exception, that would be foolish.
Education would be teaching more about what the risk factors are, what helps to mitigate them vs. what makes them worse, and teaching about the consequences of infection and what life is like with HIV.
hey, i was diagnosed at 19… 20 now… yay for hiv related depressions and me feeling guilty for having a crush on someone to the point where i rationalize myself into not liking them anymore then feeling depressed again later because of it >.>
E-man, you’re a dangerous psycho … you can contract HIV and not test positive and still be able to transmit it to someone else … it doesn’t alwaysshow up in tests right away … you’re delusional and it’s scary to see someone so vehemently share dangerous opinions like yours.
I am not delusional. I know full well that many people don’t know they are poz yet, and that for myself as for others a negative test has a certain time frame and does not necessarily account for recent activity – and I discuss this risk with EVERY SINGLE PARTNER. See where I indicated that earlier?
People always ask why I don’t put my status as “Negative” on my profile, and that is exactly why – I don’t believe anyone who barebacks can be certain until he has a negative test after 3-6 months without sex. For the most part I leave it as “Ask Me” to stimulate that exact discussion, and I start the conversation anyway if they don’t. I regularly criticize people who say they are negative without specifying a test date and qualifying whether they are high-risk like I am.
So thanks, I may be a lot of things you don’t like but I’m not crazy or ignorant on this subject. You don’t have to agree with me, but you can’t expect me to live the way you live just because that is how you prefer it.
I conduct my sex life with a high degree of responsible behavior to deliberately ensure that I am the one at most risk and anyone I am with adequately understands all the risks before clothed come off. Beyond that, adults have the right to make their own informed decisions about their health. I think smoking is disgusting and foolish, but people still have a right to do it – just not around me. So leave me alone to have my bareback sex, and just don’t have it with me if you don’t like it.
Why are y’all jumping all over E-man? He’s telling you about his opinion, not trying to hog-tie you and make you have 20 bareback sex partners. If we substituted smoking or doing whatever the drug du jour is, we’d likely see much less hoopla, but we’d still have intentional risky (maybe self-destructive) behavior. If the man wants to fuck bare, let him do it. Sounds like he’s informed and responsible. I’m more concerned about the quiet ones who, if they do think of it, wouldn’t talk about it for anything in the world…sshhhh. Those are the ones posting on ManHunt or CraigsList “bareback bottom–neg for neg only” and like one of you said, it’s all a numbers game so it’s just a matter of time before someone who really does believe “UB2” is going to keep him safe, is going to wind up with HIV.
Sigh, in case anyone reads comments… your risk factor for developing HIV is based on the risk factors and population you sleep with.
Statistically, if you bareback every night with 18 year old virgins, you stand a much lower chance of developing HIV than if you have bareback sex with one person of unknown HIV status every year for five years.
To further complicate matters, things like WHAT YOU DO SEXUALLY greatly impact your risks… If you allow someone who is HIV+ to suck your dick you are far LESS likely to develope HIV than if you let someone who is HIV+ dump a load of their cum in your ass.
I could say more about risk factors, but it’s easier to check a website like TheBody.com or visit your local gay focused health services organization and ask a medical provider there.
Manhunt is NOT the place to get your definitive medical advice. It is a good place for gossip, movie news, and occasionally gay political news… but your body should be trusted to licensed professionals.
As for a porn star saying what he thinks is hot… if you consider an adult film star a role model, you have a fucked up idea of what a role model is… A role model should be a gay rights activist, or the transgender person who has the strength to begin transitioning in high school! A role model is the person who comes out not just in spite of how hard it is, but because of it. The person who takes steps so that it is easier for others to follow is a role model.
I love being a gay man, but right now, for the first time in years I feel ashamed. Who are our role models? How did we get so far off course?
Thanks, Jimbo.
A lot of good points Billy, and that is what I meant about education. People need to know more instead of leaping to conclusions on either side of the line.
BlockedUser, I was not sure how to respond to you, but if you need support let’s find a way to establish communication, or I can put you in touch with my HIV+ friends. Being poz sucks, especially at such a young age, but there are ways to keep yourself moving in a positive direction( npi) emotionally. Depending on where you live there are probably support groups, have you checked them out?
Pro-promiscuous bareback sex.
Really, E-Man. Really. Come ON.
That is a new level of stupidity. I am just lost for words.
I’m 19 and I have the sense to know that that is very irresponsible decision.
I truly hope you are not older than an 11 year old, because you’re thoughts on this matter are about as misguided and reckless as an 11 year old’s might be.
People, take a look. This is what’s called a “bug”. A really big reason AIDS is still so big in our community. Gay men thinking they are jesus christ, himself, and are just TOO good to get AIDS… Until they do. Then in their denial and anger, go off and continue with the ingenious activities that got them there in the first place, and LIE to their partners.
Wonderful. Just wonderful.
Pull your head out of your ass E-man. You need to make room for the arrival of the next cumshot up there. Who knows? Maybe that be the magic HIV shot that slap you the hell out of your autistic clusterfuck fairyland.
🙂
Did you even read a damn thing I said? Or do you just assume I’m stupid because you disagree with me calling you on your ignorance and immaturity all the time? I never once said think I won’t get infected. I actually said that I am probably due. But it is a choice informed adults have the right to make. I guarantee I’m a lot more informed than you on the issue.
He’s just posted at his blog that he’s now HIV positive. Sad.
Being HIV positive sux, but e-man is right. It’s better to be educated than just assume that because you use a condom things will go great for you. I am 28, and I recently got HIV from giving oral sex to a man which statistically is 1/3500 of a chance. I always asked my partners’ status, always used condoms, for anal, and always tried to keep up with people I met online.
It turns out not everybody does that… especially “neg” guys who just assume that because they got an hiv neg test, that they are negative for six months until they do so again. Luckily, I caught the virus within a month of infection because I regularly get tested and have been able to treat it, and I may have even stopped someone else from getting it, but the guy who gave it to me, who swore that he was negative and he always played safe, obviously hasn’t and probably gave it to others.
You are never risk free with a condom, and it sucks that everyone has this taboo about being positive when it is more important that they realize that there is no magic pill. If every neg guy in Manhunt were to put, hiv indeterminate in their profile or status “Ask me” as Eman does, it would bring greater awareness of the risks and reduce the types of practices that make for increased transmission like “dipping” or party and play, etc.
But no one ever discusses their sexual history, and if you do, you’re categorized a whore. Gay men need to grow up. I’m proud that at least Mason has always been honest about his history online. It sucks that he has HIV like it sucks for me, and it sucks more because the few people who try to be as honest with the world as possible about sex get fucked over by those who just like to hide, and who think if they make out with you, if they hug you, or if they share food with you, you will give them HIV; or that just because you have HIV, you must be a bareback cumdump whore. AND YES, MANY NEG GUYS DO THAT. Those are the guys that keep this fucking disease going, and it was one of those “neg” guys that gave it to me.
You do not get HIV from just having unprotected sex you get HIV from not knowing the risks OR what sucks for people who are responsible from having sex with people who do not know the risks but LIE about it, and I applaud Eman for being so upfront about it. If more gay men had the balls to do what he does, this disease would be gone by now or pretty much just a straight breeder problem.
oh and billy, sad but true, you can get hiv with a condom… not because the condom fails but because MANY people don’t know how to use it. All it takes is one small cut in your mouth, hand, or anus and enough precum or cum to rub against it for millions of those fuckers to go inside your system. Unless you have sex with celophane or your hand, you are taking risks…even for those people who are in “monogamous” relations. The point E-man is making is that you need to be honest and enjoy sex like you want to enjoy it. Those people who are not honest, like you, tend to go out, get drunk, use a condom without lube, never take an hiv test in their life, and then when they get pcp wonder who gave it to them. Grow up kid, you’re 19 and you’re in a world of hurt in less than 3 months.
Cntrb1, you know you got pozzed up from barebacking, enough with the innocent oral bullshit…nobody is buying that! Wanna try again now?
Well I am not going to say that it does not feel better because it does. However that 20 minutes of bareback could place you on 20 years of medication. There is no denying these realities; while the medication is helpful there is a backlash in the gay community because of the perception of being HIV+. Many in the gay community see HIV as preventable and IT IS but please remember we are all having SAFER SEX; condom usage is VITAL to this.
Here are some of my thoughts:
1. I think EVERY gay man should have an answer regarding whether or not they will have sex or date a HIV+ person. I would never try to convince someone as it is your decision but you should have a solid answer.
2. STOP using language like I am clean UB2; some HIV+ men are caused to further hide their status. You can NO longer tell if someone is HIV+ and many gay men do not tell even their closest friends about their health status because too many gay men are not discreet.
3. The #1 reason most men are HIV+ is TRUST sure it is misplaced TRUST but there it is. You say I am negative and then it is happy trails down the unsafe sex lane. It just can’t be that easy to be convinced about someone’s status. Where is your paper work from the doctor? Something of proof, some discussion about your sexual practices. If they have an ad on Manhunt, Grindr, Adam4Adam, Gay.com, RealJock, etc. you may want to rethink having unsafe sex. Oh hell, you should not be having it with anyone under any conditions.
4. Bareback videos whether people want to acknowledge them or not cause many HIV- and HIV+ men to formulate an opinion about bareback sex. HIV- may see HIV+ men as “slutty” and HIV+ men as a measuring stick on how to to behave sexually. Of course this does not apply to all men but there needs to me more talk about this.
you’re all sick. anyone who practices bareback is going to get what’s ultimately coming to them…
Mason has already..
Most gays are retarded idiots.
I am absolutely amazed at the vitriolic comments and holier-then-thou attitude from many bloggers regarding this subject. Let E-Man live his life as he chooses, he is NOT responsible for anybody else.
I’m in a long-term committed relationship [5 years] and have been monogamous from the moment we got together, I hope but can’t be 100% sure that the same applies to my partner, and I will NOT stake my life on hope and assumption. I don’t think my partner nor anybody else except, yours truly, is responsible for my health.
Despite our promise to be monogamous I still insist on safe sex practices! As I don’t believe that anybody “gives” you HIV, I think you go out and get it!
I don’t care what you tell me, how many test results from experts on HIV you can produce I WILL NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX with anybody!
I’m NOT sure but I think that might also be what E-MAN is trying to say. You are responsible for your own health! If you choose to participate in bareback sex then you must be willing to face the possible consequences of STD’s or even HIV infection. If you don’t want to deal with that shit, then practice safer sex and stop laying the responsibility at somebody else’s feet.
diagnosed at 2o?!
I heard some of those tests are unreliable- however what E-man is saying is important, reguardless of what we think of his actions. He is giving HIV dialogue, something that isnt often