Village Voice columnist Michael Musto isn't known for keeping his mouth shut about certain matters, but is he off his rocker by implying that individuals who claim to be bisexual are "full of shit"?
Musto writes, "Everyone always says they're bisexual…but usually I find these are just gay men who are afraid to come out. I know there are real bisexuals out there–mainly because I've heard that there are–and I do
think it's a lovely idea to actually crave sex with people regardless of gender. I'm just wondering how real a phenomenon this is, as opposed to a smoke-and-mirrors coverup designed to keep antsy gays in the closet."
This sort of reminds me of a quote from Lisa Kudrow's character in The Opposite of Sex. In response to someone saying that they're bisexual, she retorted, "Puh-lease! I went to a bar mitzvah once. That doesn't make me Jewish." I busted out laughing the first time I heard that line, but a female pal (who was dating a bisexual man) got terribly offended when I relayed it to her. After that conversation, I took a step back and came to my own personal conclusion–bisexuality isn't some ridiculous myth.
If someone says they're bisexual, should we really doubt them? I mean, how would you feel if someone questioned the legitimacy of your sexual preference? Is biphobia just as bad as homophobia?
– Dewitt
Photo credit: Linda Lenzi
I like this one, I mean it doesn’t matter to me what label a person chooses to claim or if they decide not to claim one! We are sexual by nature and does it matter what we want to call it? I’ve also wondered if the whole bisexual thing was a cover-up for guys in the closet not wanting to admit being gay, but what I’ve found is that bisexual or not…the person always swings one way more than the other…and in my own interactions the guys always swung to other men so you tell me.
Interesting article. I’m bisexual AND I know gay men who use bisexuality as a cover up. I’ve also met men who are straight who’ve convinced themselves they’re gay because they’ve been so hurt by women in the past.
I think the idea here is to be open-minded: both to the diversity of life … as well as to the bullshit that people create.
We should be neither niave nor cynical but open-minded.
I think Michael Musto makes a good point. He’s just paying attention to the Bullshit side. That doesn’t make his point less valid.
I think he’s spot on!! Christina Ricci also had a good point in that movie… she said something like “and then he entered the final stage of American male bisexuality – total mo.” Bisexual men are just confused. Once they have enough cock they never go back!
I think the vast majority of people don’t believe in bisexuality, and for good reason. Still to this day, no credible study (scientific or otherwise, and there have been many, that remotely tend to prove bisexuality. The best they’ve come up with is that people have a sexual direction, but sometimes you’re horny enough you can screw someone unconventional. Personally, I do not believe in bisexuality either, which seems in line with most gay men I realize. However, my reasons are more because bisexuality really and truly hurts the gay marriage cause. Indeed, “True Marriage” advocates love the idea of bisexuality. I have for a few years now advocated dropping the B in GLBT specifically for that reason. It’s not that people claiming to be bisexual are evil or bad or confused, I just think they’re second-guessing.
I kind of wish someone would do a survey of so called bisexual men and ask them it they had to go to a desserted island for 3 years would they take Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie? Assuming Brad was gay of course, or at least bi.
I kind of think sexuality is a state of mind and not who you have sex with. Plenty of gay men have sex with women but would not consider themselves bi or straight. I think it is how you identify in your head. After all if you can get hard in theory you should be able to fuck even Dick Cheney. Now that I am getting gross I will stop.
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To assume bisexuality has nothing to do with love and only sex doesn’t speak very highly of being heterosexual OR homosexual. What trivial lives we must have to assume you HAVE to be one or the other or “just horny” to be interested in relationships with either sex.
JUST BECAUSE HE IS A FUCKING FAGGOT DOES NOT GIVE HIM THE FUCKING RIGHT TO TELL OTHER PEOPLE WHAT THEY ARE…HE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT HELL HE IS TALKING ABOUT…PEOPLE CAN BE WHATEVER THEY WANT TO BE…IT’S TIME THAT GAYS STOP BEING BIGOTS AND LET PEOPLE BE PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT WHAT A PERSON CALLS THEMSELF’S SEXUALLY OR OTHER WISE!
Oh great, people are referencing movie lines as their source for refuting bisexuality. Michael Musto is a disgruntled troll in the guise of a supposed mouthpiece for the gay community. He needs a man…or a woman.
And to Kevin, before you make claims that bisexuals are “second-guessing”, take a close look at your argument. You think it’s this or you believe it’s that…hmmmmm. Your non-acceptance of the bisexual community also weakens your argument since you choose to separate/remove its entire existence.
This is the fucking shit that pisses me off.Its always the flamboyant homosexual men or openly gay men that insist on running there fucking mouths spewing nothing but misery.Misery loves company and will do anything to pigeonhole individuals into there world.Kevin,open your mind,there has been a plethora of evidence that suggest most human sexuality falls between the extremes of hetero and homosexuality and i have yet to read anything to refute the evidence surrounding that.Bisexual mens biggest enemies are gay men,not heterosexual.A bunch of bitter,angry sorry ass queens who are ignorant and make such ridiculous statements due to that subconscious unawareness form of misery.It is homosexuals like him that irritate downlow men,fuel the divide and the stereotypes surrounding gay men.It is gay men like him that are found shot dead or gay bashed because of his big ass mouth spewing this garbage.No one is in any state to tell another person what he/she is not sexually attracted to.The ridiculous assumption many gay men turn to is asking when was the last time you had sex with a woman,as if this has anything to do with not being sexually attracted to them.What if the man finds it hard to have sex with a woman because of there mindset,inhibitions,or he is seen as unattractive.This does not equate to a lack of a sexual attraction to women.What some gay men need to do is some serious self observation and deep soul searching and come to terms with the truth that they only think bisexuals are fake or faking because they are miserable(of course they would never admit it),and angry bisexual men generally prefer to be part of the heterosexual world.They are chastised by these lowest common denominators because they choose not to conform to the gay lifestyle and its stereotypes,and refuse to help fight homophobia as if all men who have sexual attractions to men face homophobia.I have known thugs to accept me as a bisexual more than many gay men who usually turn to ridiculous assumptions that do nothing but tell me they are subconsciously unaware they are miserable as hell.I cannot stand gay men like this queen and i stay far away from its type of ignorance.There is a link on youtube were many bisexual men/women have stated biphobia is much more common among homosexuals than heterosexuals and in my experience it is very true.GROW UP!!!!!!!!!
As long as movie quotes are being tossed around… “Bisexual? Oh please…. Once, just once, I’d like to see a bisexual who lived with his boyfriend and then saw his girlfriend on the sly.”
When that happens… I’ll believe a man is really bisexual.