Recently, I received an e-mail from a young man who says he’s afraid of sex. He writes, “I know all about safe sex, but a lot of guys don’t want to wear a condom when it comes to oral. This worries me because of the risk of HIV/AIDS. I know the chances are really low, but that kind of freaks me out. I know I can catch other STIs, but that’s what I’m more concerned about.”
He went on to ask if it’s “weird” to request that your partner wear a condom during a blowjob. While this isn’t a common practice due to the fairly low risk of HIV transmission through oral sex, health experts do recommend using a condom to reduce risk. However, there seems to be a realistic expectation that most men won’t do this, so they offer up addition suggestions such as avoiding cum in the mouth and regular sexual health check-ups for chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes and other sexually transmitted infections.
Now here’s the question–why do so many men who choose to use condoms for anal sex not use them for oral sex? Is it because of the low risk? Or is it for a much simpler reason, such as skin tasting better than latex? Last but not least, would you find it strange if your partner asked you to wrap your dick for a blowjob? Take a moment to reflect, then weigh in with your thoughts in the comments section.
– Dewitt
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No, becouse the taste is completely different!
… It’s really wierd, but I can see the point. A lot of guys are anal(snrk) about their safety, which is fine in my book. Latex, even ‘flavored latex’, has a very different taste than skin, and often times diludes the pleasure of GIVING a guy head. Me, personally? I love the feel of a nice, big load on my face, or in my mouth (yea, I swallow), but I’m careful about it. I don’t just randomly give guys head without knowing that they’re STD free.
I’ve never used a condom during oral sex, and I’ve never had any diseases. (Not that it can’t happen, I suppose.) But I would think it was really strange if someone asked to use a condom for oral.
Is there a risk of catching something doing a BJ yes but like you said it is low. Much harder to do a seeman to blood transmission through the mouth.
Brushing your teeth right before a BJ is a no no to make sure gums are closed and not open to exposure. No sores or cracked lips that you can see or feel before doing it.
The anal cavity is much easier to rip and tear during sex especialy as the lube starts to dry and create a way for seemen to get into the blood stream so this is why a condom is so important for anal sex more than oral.
There are free STD test centers all over the U.S. in every state and they say every 6 months get tested. If it is free isn’t it worth a few hours of our time just to know and protect others and yourself?!
Hell they even offer free Hep A& B prevention shots with all the testing plus free condoms so why not just go for it and know how safe you are for others to be with you.
A blowie with a rubber? I’d rather just wank..
I have been asked to suck guys with a condom on. If I am horny, I will, but usually just go to the next person. I prefer the taste of a raw cock and feel that sucking on a condom is like putting one on a banana, which I can do at home. Besides, I want the cum in my mouth and down my throat. I guess it is risky, but so is driving, yet I get in my car every day.
If you really trust them so little you have to use a condom for a BJ then you should probably rethink what your doing……safe sex is using a condom, safer sex is being smart and getting tested together. and why waste $15 on condoms your not going to use when you can waste $5 in gas and get tested for free……all of these use a condom post on here are just getting really annoying, if manhunt cared that much they wouldn’t have a box to check off “safer only” and “no PNP”………take a stance on something, and not just to avoid lawsuits….
Everybody SHOULD use condoms for oral, but no one I know, including me, does. Condoms are great for preventing HIV and pregnancy, but poor for preventing anything else. So, even if you do stick a condom on a dick before you suck it, your chances of catching something else equally permanent, like herpes, doesn’t go down much. I’ve also read that there’s no case of HIV that was transmitted, without doubt, through just oral (and without bleeding gums).
In comparison to other STDs, HIV is difficult to catch, as long as you use a condom for anal and be mindful of any open wounds. As long as you don’t bareback, it’s unlikely you’ll catch HIV. The question then becomes, “is avoiding herpes, warts, etc., worth remaining abstinent?”
If someone wanted me to wear a condom for oral sex, I suppose I’d comply. But I’d pass on giving a blowjob to someone with a rubber — I can’t imagine the techniques I’ve learned over the years working nearly as well through latex, and that would be frustrating.
The only guys who have ever asked to wear a condom while I blew them were “straight”
Also if you blow a guy with a condom, isn’t just as good a chance your teeth might grab onto it somehow and rip, I mean they packages now say to be careful opening them because your finger nails can cut the condom, what might your teeth do?
I am a bi male and VERY ORAL. I LUV TO SUCK OFF GUYS WITH BIG COCKS and I have never had any of the guys I SUCK OFF WEAR A CONDOM. When the guys are ready to cum the give me FACIALS which is VERY HOT.
A part of me says this is sad and another says it’s hilarious.
I’m so glad I lived before sex became a state of paranoia.
i can understand safesex.. but i want to suck Cock not a fucking piece of latex.
i can understand safesex.. but i want to suck Cock not a fucking piece of latex.
Exactly, if you suck a dick with a condom then you may as well stay home and suck a dildo. Just plain stupid. HIV from oral sex is very rare and not proven to ever happen. Any other disease can be treated. And yes, you should use condoms for anal sex.
Exactly, if you suck a dick with a condom then you may as well stay home and suck a dildo. Just plain stupid. HIV from oral sex is very rare and not proven to ever happen. Any other disease can be treated. And yes, you should use condoms for anal sex.
Exactly, if you suck a dick with a condom then you may as well stay home and suck a dildo. Just plain stupid. HIV from oral sex is very rare and not proven to ever happen. Any other disease can be treated. And yes, you should use condoms for anal sex.
Well I guess it all comes down to each ones decision to not or too use a rubber Myself I would pass ecs. orally I love cum and raw cock in my mouth but if it makes u feel better and safer then no harm no foul.have had guys have condoms on and wanted me to suck them off I passed as well and went on to the unwrapped dicks I suck cock to get the cum. but gain to each their own.
I hate sucking dick that has lube on it. Latex + lube= no. I nice, clean cock is amazing.
I hate sucking dick that has lube on it. Latex + lube= no. I nice, clean cock is amazing.
agree with Fannyp above: refuse to suck a dick with lube on it
have never given or received oral with a condom… and really don’t want to
I don’;t think I could suck a piece of latex. I’d rather gag on his dick, not the nasty lube.
awful taste! its simply like thatif !! i wanna suck on plastic i’d better get a dildo to suck!! really! it has no sense!!
three words, Cold Sores Herpes
I have to say that I kinda understand where the guy with the original letter is coming from and for me it stems to my ex.
When he and I broke up it was in part because he couldn’t accept that I had a more promiscuous past than he and so made me feel that if I had sex in the future casually, I would prob catch an STD etc. While this was totally just part of his angry rant which I should’ve discarded, it has sort of stuck with me and damaged me…I feel i’ve become so much more paranoid about sex.
The problem is I can’t now decide what is paranoia and what is just being sensible. I would love to have a BF, but am realistic that you can get horny while single and sometimes you do have sex in a more casual manner. I’ve decided though that this year i’m aiming for sex only with guys i’m dating and hoping that that will put my mind at ease.
But even still I worry about their sexual past, cause even if they get tested, how do u know they’re being honest, or whether they got tested far enough after a sexual encounter for the tests to pick it up.
Any help as to regain my trust in men and sex would be much appreciated.
P.S I always wear a condom during anal sex (top here) and only bareback when in a serious relationship once we’ve both been tested.
I’ve used them for hookups. It’s really not a big deal as long as you use a non-lubricated condom (and the mint ones actually have a pleasant taste). It’s all well and good to say go get tested, but when you’re hooking up with someone you really have no idea if they’re being honest with you & getting tested after the fact isn’t going to help in prevention…
I have known some gay military boys that ask. Not to often, but once in awhile.
I just read a little lube on the tip helps stop the gag reflex, haven’t tried it yet to see if it really does or not. But that is different then the entire cock smothered in lube.
i would find it strange mainly because of how uncommon it is. I would comply tho. oral has never quite been high on my pleasure list anyway haha
i do understand the request… they do make flavored condoms… its not like we have taste buds anywhere other than our mouths 😛
Ew no! Condoms taste ugh – even the flavored ones. I’d just jack him off and lick his balls
Going to add my two-cents here!
I’ve yet to experience any sexual intercourse, whether oral or anal with another guy. It’s quite obvious, unfortunately, that most if not all sites such as Manhunt “promote” hooking up. Being that is the “status-quo” a lot of profiles submitted to these types of sites are filled with details that one looking to hook up are interested/searching for. Whenever you have to fill out a profile that asks such details as what is your length, girth and things of that nature the intention is easily understood.
Someone told me that this is the behavior of all gay men. I fail to believe that because I have met some nice gentlemen over the course of having my profile listed here, but sadly enough through behaviors, language and things said you see this overwhelming, unsustainable desire to have some sort of sexual satisfaction.
I myself, even though I am curious, have not developed this behavior. My curiosity was not developed because of some sexual thirst in experiencing being close to another man, but the wonderment of loving another man. Possibly seeing if I can bring another guy happiness, joy.. show them affection and admiration and as mentioned love. Love has so many definitions to many to the point where it’s not what it used to mean.
My point is I will not risk the safety, health and well being of any guy I ever am with in the future. It is with great hopes guys reading this will consider that with the utmost importance as I do. I’ve developed one great friend from this site, and while his name will be withheld for his protection it saddens me to know that he lives his life today with HIV/AIDS. His kindness is inspiring, his words are intriguing and his smile radiates wonder. But as it became clear to myself that smile on his face is a disguise, a mask he shields himself with to not allow others see who he is or what he thinks on a daily basis. His thoughts have ranged from having the desire to just stay in, to not see the world for its’ cruelty or beauty to thoughts that truly worry me like wanting to do drugs or abuse alcohol. I pray for his happiness because we really ALL possess it, it’s just waiting to be discovered. To possibly be discovered by ourselves or from someone close, maybe a friend, family member or someone we love.
I ask that no matter the “distaste for flavored condoms” or “hatred for lack of feeling” that you ALL please, please protect what matters to YOU! It’s YOUR life!
Don’t feel sorry for me because I have not experienced that connection, because while I do find myself encompassed with thoughts I’ve kept to myself for so long I am hopeful for the day I get to meet one guy, THE guy that understands me…
I’ve only had sex with two guys, first one was just a fuck buddy, so we used condoms for everything (except jacking each other off). The second is my boyfriend, we’ve been together for over a year and actually don’t use condoms at all anymore (we did at first). So I guess what I’m saying is that I would use them, even for oral, in the beginning, until we got to know each other and were dating.
Two cents? That was more like a buck and a half. But I got it.
To Scaredaswell:
I too am in a VERY similar situation. My husband (legally married 4 years now, although we have been together for going on 15 yrs), became poz 6 years ago. He is extremely promiscuous as a powerbottom and in to extreme sex. While I used to try to keep up with him, after a few health scares for me (I mostly top but was switching more to bttm), I have gotten so TOTALLY paranoid about sex, I can no longer get an erection and am not aroused AT ALL anymore. It is now really causing a problem with our relationship. I realize HIV is no longer a death sentence, but at the same time, I do not want to have to deal with it, with my own health…help.
When it comes to me on this issue, yes there is some risk, but i dont think its something to worry about and if people are that scared of it then figure out a way around it
Amen.