Chris Crocker is a polarizing figure in the world of gay Internet celebrity. Since becoming a full-on pop culture phenomenon with his…bah, do I have to say it? It involved Britney Spears. Since THAT, his YouTube videos have garnered him a gigantic fanbase, he’s no stranger to television, and he’s cut a couple of pop singles. He’s also reportedly launching a porn venture soon. (For those of you with doubts, dude has body.) Some dismiss him as just another loudmouth homo with a webcam. But if you actually WATCH some of his vids, you’ll note that he’s no dummy. His opinions on gay culture, sex, relationships, and society in general are often gems, and he talks about his own life struggles with an admirable honesty.
We were psyched he agreed to answer the question of what a “real man” is via one of his vids. Chris Crocker shot a video for us! Shut up, he’s famous and I’m easily dazzled.
– J. Harvey
p.s. I’d also like to note that I LOVE that Chris’ grandmother(?) is just chillin’ in the background. LOVES IT.
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Sometimes I feel like I’m the only Gay Man in North America who doesn’t sound like a woman when he speaks. No hate on Chris – great video. Fact: he speaks with a female’s inflection and speech patterns. And by the by, Chris, a lot of guys who “work on cars” are pretty damn intelligent. Try explaining to me the internal workings of a combustion engine. Go on, try.
He talks about representing gay men? Fuck that. Gays like him do NOT represent me, or any of the men that I am attracted to. I’m 26, hard-bodied, and I am attracted to masculinity – REAL masculinity, not gays who call themselves “masc” and then open their mouths and sound like ladies. I mean… I don’t get it. We’re gay cuz we like MEN, right? Why do Gay’s have to create a subculture that’s neither Man nor Woman, but something uncomfortably in-between??
I guess it`s just harder to meet people like you when you`re not as “out there” as a lot of guys in the gay culture sphere.
“Flamers”, if you’ll pardon the term, should embrace it. Flame on, I say. Just don’t preach that you’re representing me, or Gay Men, ’cause you ain’t. If you are, I guess I’m not really a gay man. I’m just a straight guy who only fucks other straight guys, aren’t I? 🙂
I think he’s gorgeous and smart (which equals sexy for me).
I think he’s gorgeous and smart (which equals sexy for me).
I think he’s gorgeous and smart (which equals sexy for me).
I hate this guy…Always have. ;_;
I hate this guy…Always have. ;_;
I hate this guy…Always have. ;_;
He didn’t claim to be a gay rep for all…he said that most gay men prefer a gay rep who isn’t “recognizably” gay and is easily assessible or “safe” for straight people to accept. Basically, even as gay people, whether you identify as masculine, fem, or whatever, there’s a cultural expectation to fit into mainstream/conservative ideals of manhood. That thinking creates social friction not only against heterosexuals and gays, but gays and other gays, a point he makes that I agree with.
I never claimed to represent the gay community. I talked about the opposite. Most gay men want the most known man in media to be someone mama-papa friendly, identical to a “straight man” so that we seem “normal”, quote-unquote.
I never claimed to represent the gay community. I talked about the opposite. Most gay men want the most known man in media to be someone mama-papa friendly, identical to a “straight man” so that we seem “normal”, quote-unquote.
I never claimed to represent the gay community. I talked about the opposite. Most gay men want the most known man in media to be someone mama-papa friendly, identical to a “straight man” so that we seem “normal”, quote-unquote.
Totally agree with you.
Totally agree with you.
Kind of sad that mainstreaming has become the norm. Life is more interesting when people are comfortable enough to act themselves. To that end I almost miss the days of discrimination, not because it was fun to be the target of violence or have negative attention from outside our community, instead because there was less negativity in our community. Freaks, flamers, straight wannabe’s the whole kit and caboodle was accepted, because we all dealt with the trials of being a minority in our everyday lives. Now, it feels like so many of us are the watered down homogenized, hell even pasteurized for the protection of society at large, version. Acceptance has killed the family bonds we all felt, or significantly weakened them at any rate.
I doubt there’s going to be any one version of a ‘Real Man’ that everyone agrees on, but thanks for the share Chris. Hopefully the negative feedback from those who don’t like your over the top persona being in the spotlight isn’t too bad.
Well said, Chris! Luv it. Still looking for a man as described though …
Well said, Chris! Luv it. Still looking for a man as described though …
Well said, Chris! Luv it. Still looking for a man as described though …
Am I the only one who believes that this “Real Man Project” post only brings out the ugly in people. I don’t care what other people think about what they consider to be a “real man”.
Am I the only one who believes that this “Real Man Project” post only brings out the ugly in people. I don’t care what other people think about what they consider to be a “real man”.
Personally, I like a man that not so easy to swallow, but then I like a challenge.
Personally, I like a man that not so easy to swallow, but then I like a challenge.
Personally, I like a man that not so easy to swallow, but then I like a challenge.
There’s some man in that girl. And I mean that as a compliment.
There’s some man in that girl. And I mean that as a compliment.
There’s some man in that girl. And I mean that as a compliment.
No, you are not the only gay man who doesn’t sound like a woman when he speaks… and so what if you were? Cripes, why do we (well, not me) /still/ need to compartmentalize each other? Let people be who they are (so long as no one gets hurt). I find the Star Trek IDIC (yeah…deal with it) pretty cool. Let him be who he is – that’s my definition of being a man 0 live and let live (come to think of it, a *gasp* woman could hold that view, too!
Hey, Chris… dude, you’re beyond hot! Keep being who you are! Also, i’m single *hint hint* lol
I am right there with you Elrandra! I didn’t bother with the video because, as Tabatha would say ” his voice does my head in.” I give props to DeWitt for getting CC to do a “real man” spot. Oh the irony.
sorry J Harvey
sorry J Harvey
sorry J Harvey
Kurt Cobain? Are you fucking kidding me? Cobain was a heroin addict who committed suicide –not the best example of emotional fortitude, much less masculinity.
I also don’t appreciate that snobby comment about guys who work on cars. Crocker better know his way around a car, as real men do. Otherwise, he’ll get ripped off big time.
No, this flaming queen lives in La La Land. He adds nothing to the butch/femme debate, and his commentary is contradictory. If anyone around here is famous for being smart, he ain’t it.
Kurt Cobain? Are you fucking kidding me? Cobain was a heroin addict who committed suicide –not the best example of emotional fortitude, much less masculinity.
I also don’t appreciate that snobby comment about guys who work on cars. Crocker better know his way around a car, as real men do. Otherwise, he’ll get ripped off big time.
No, this flaming queen lives in La La Land. He adds nothing to the butch/femme debate, and his commentary is contradictory. If anyone around here is famous for being smart, he ain’t it.
I’m sorry, but when did “knowing your way around a car” become something that’s inherently masculine. Men are not BORN with a knowledge of automobiles. They learn it.
It’s a skill, much like painting, swimming or flying a fucking kite. I’m so sick and tired of seeing people equate masculinity with their ability to fix an engine. It makes literally NO sense, and just perpetuates ridiculous gender norms that shouldn’t exist in the first place.
Stop. Tuck your ass lips back in, and come back when you have something worthwhile to contribute to the conversation.
Although I absolutely champion Mr. Crocker’s right to unabashedly be himself, I think most people are missing the point when they accuse his detractors of ‘hating’ him for his in-your-face effeminence…As someone who has watched this entertaining l’il trainwreck/gender-rebel/street-philosopher from the ‘leave Britney alone’ days til present, the only reason that I and many of his critics would find fault with him is not the WAY he is saying things but the questionable content of WHAT he is saying…To be blunt, many of his early Youtube rantings were disturbingly incoherent and aggressively heterophobic…As someone who was positioning himself as a young, fresh voice of gay consciousness, social tolerance & activism, his first video-blogs were an embarrassing blend of self-important grandstanding and half-baked, downright vulgar editorializing about the gay vs. straight, fem vs. butch schisms in our society…I would not want ANYONE to think that the incarnation of Chris Crocker during THAT period of his personal evolution was a coherent spokesperson for gay rights or gay sensibilities as a whole…Even though he IS maturing and he IS a creatively evolving personality worthy of public redemption, those shameful EARLY rants are the TRUE source of much of the dismissal, distrust and dissent that continues to haunt Mr. Crocker’s progress in both the gay AND straight communities…I just wish him luck & enlightenment in his continuing social and intellectual journeys…
Whoa! Word! though.
Whoa! Word! though.
Why this comment got any negative votes is beyond me.
Dewitt2it, it’s a wonder the mechanics don’t laugh you out of the shop with that attitude. I agree with Crocker on one thing: Real men should be smart. They should learn all kinds of useful skills. I just objected to his elitist comment about automotive intelligence. That was a contradiction.
My advice: Get that feminist claptrap about a genderless society out of your head. It’s nothing but a sham. Feminists say they love wusses like James Blunt, who sings “You’re Beautiful” and other chick songs, but in the end, they really get wet for bad boys like Colin Farrell.
Even the great 70s experiment in unisex clothes and hairstyles was an abysmal failure. Nothing changed. The girls and gays still chased jocks and rock stars.
Society has an inherent need for smart, strong, talented men, who are rewarded money and power, which in turn, makes them even more sexually attractive. We may talking about real menhere, but it all comes back to sex.
Real men don’t become drug addicts and commit suicide–unless you’re married to Courtney Love, which would explain everything.