Do you cringe every time you see the words "no fats, no fems" on Manhunt? Yeah, you're not the only one. But could you imagine what it'd be like if there was a site that strictly enforced a "no fats, no fems" policy? Hey, it could happen! It wouldn't be too far off from BeautifulPeople.com…
The elite dating site with a "strict ban on ugly people" has dismissed five-thousand members for packing on pounds over the holiday season. "Letting fatties roam the site is a direct threat to our business model," says the site's founder Robert Hintze. Wait, this came out of the mouth of an actual person?
Honestly, this reminds me of one of Sue Sylvester's lines on Glee–"All I want is just one day a year where I'm not visually assaulted by uglies and fatties." Speaking of which, did anyone catch The Biggest Loser last night? Kidding, kidding…
– Dewitt
I dont see what the big deal is…I mean, theres sites like bigmuscle.com or sites geared specifically towards “big boned” people like BBWdatefinder.com or sites just for bears…all based on specific physical traits…so if the pretty people wanna have a site just for them, why the fuck not?
double standard much?
Damn straight. All my life I’ve been assaulted by fatties. I’m gonna friend these two on facebook. Let me break it down: ugly? Not your fault. Born that way. You can mitigate it by dressing well, working out, and just being generally charming. Fat? 100% your fault. The level of fat tolerance in our culture blows me away. I don’t understand why any fat person anywhere has a job. If you can’t manage to not kill yourself by stuffing donuts down your hole, why should I hire you to manage the fry basket, or to cut my hair, or to run my country? You’ve failed the simplest task in life: don’t kill yourself.
I just had to comment on this piece of shit above me W_L. Go to a MF hole and die.
Do you for one second think about people who have absolutely no control over their weight. I know many people like this. A couple eat nothing but raw vegetables and still are for the lack of a better word…huge. I also happen to be one of these people. My weight fluctuates depending on the amount of stress in my life. So actually during holidays it goes down, but let someone get sick or die and my weight goes sky high and no i’m not an emotional eater. I don’t know makes people think that being thin is in, honey it’s not. I actually get sick sometimes when i see some of you. Especially the men in jeans made specifically for a woman that a size 0 or less. Get over yourself. Your nothing but a self center asshole who prolly is the ugliest fuck on earth and you got turned down by a fat person.
So before you want to judge someone, take a step back and look at your own damn self and your flaws.
and i just had to comment on ronnell! get over it, honey. being fat is not a disease and you are not a victim. NO ONE has to be overweight. this whole self indulgent mindset that “i can’t help myself. feel sorry for me!” makes me want to puke. if obesity is a disease, how come it never infects people in 3rd world countries? how come you never see people who are infected with the fat virus in famine stricken countries? i have stepped back and taken a look, miss bitch. i come from a fat family and i can gain just walking past a bakery…but i don’t. i watch what i eat, i exercise and if i start to gain, i make sure i lose it. i’m 58 years old, i look FINE, i’m thin and i STILL get hit on. and i ain’t going around singing the blues because i just ate the whole mcdonald’s restaurant and now i’m fat! people make their life what they want it to be.
I get the whole fat thing, it’s not nice but some people who work really hard to get the body they have just aren’t going to be into people who let it all go, I get it. What kills me is the no fems thing – that’s just ignorance. Any gay man that proudly steps outside his door day after day and is labeled as “obvious” is more of a man than some asshole str8 acting / married / curious / bi / “str8” guy. Bitch please – you wish you were me. Now run back to your wife or girlfriend and bury your face in her snatch, while you’re wishing someone was pounding your ass I’m just gonna lay back and let my boyfriend service me. And that’s the T grr.
I agree with ‘johnbradley.’ I, myself, embody the Femme thing. I can look just as Straight as anyone else, however…
But, I am proud to be Out and Obvious. You may call it odd or daring, but I just think it’s comfort. I’m happy the way I am. And, believe it or not, so is everyone that knows Me. They wouldn’t want Me any other way than how I am.
Maybe Manhunt should insist that people post real cock sizes… LMAO. I’m certainly not a size queen or anything of the sort, but I just find it iritating how evidentally everyone and thier dog thinks they’re horse hung…
I just want to comment toward the “no fem” thing. I dont know about anyone else but I’m pretty str8 acting for the most part. And not because I try to be, its just who I’ve always been, and is there really anything wrong with wanting to hook-up with someone similar to myself with similar interests? I dont mean just some random one night thing, I’m talking something with a chance of conversation. If i ever hook-up with a guy who i think is pretty hot but may be considered a “fem” all we do is fuck and then if either of us starts a conversation or if i turn on MNF or something, everything goes silent and theres no real communication. it sucks feeling like i have nothing in common with most of the guys available to me but its just the way my life worked out, you cant blame me for that or call me “self-hating just because I want a guy who can throw a football and take a good pounding.
Did this conversation turn into a
“You Hoo, Girlfriend!! Let me tell you dahling, you look fat in that dress…”
So, apart of xenophobic and homophobics, we also have fatsophobics, skinnyphobics and feminatedlyphobics… Damn, and that’s what we fight on all gay parades, blogs and events?? So fuck marriage equalty, equal rights and no discrimination, if we are gonna be the first to drop the bomb against others, fuck it, then the so called gay pride is a complete shit. Been proud of all that was written above this post?? Fuck it..
As a 30 year-old guy I understand everyone having a point of view as to what they find sexy or not. I grew up in the midwest farm country and for me I like my guys to be built in a manner that does not make me worry I might break them, and I like guys that are into guy things – sports, camping, ect. However, I do not bash against “fems” or “twinks” for being who they are. Are they attractive to me personally? NO, but hey neither are all of us farm boys turned college football players attractive to the rest of the community.
Yes being over weight can be looked at as being lazy, but hell I know people who can not lose weight no matter what, just like we all know those guys that can eat McDonalds, chocolate, pasta, bread and every form of junk food all day long and never work out and still have a good body – “BTW-these people do make me a little crazy”. I have to work for the body I have and wish it was easier – it is not perfect and I will not be on the cover of MENS HEALTH, I will not weigh 160 pounds, but I will live to be old, happy, and healthy. So the ignorant statements of you are fat cause you are lazy is dumb, make a better argument – try focusing on why we are not given the rights we want as a community cause we are a bunch of self-hating fags and queers and would rather bash each other than have anything nice to say about the rest of the group that is not exactly like us or what we find attractive.
I say let the dating site do what it wants and don’t complain if you get booted cause you do not fit the mold. You are on that site cause you think that is what you are or what you deserve in life.
And to W.L. I have no idea what you look like nor do I care, but I hope someday you have someone refuse to talk to you, allow you a job, or wait of your ass because you are gay, have no hair, are old or something equally as dumb.
I want to go on the site just so I can tell people they are ugly and crush their feelings 😛
If someone doesn’t wanna talk to you online because of reasons above, it’s their loss.
News flash Alex – just because a guy’s flame burns bright doesn’t mean he won’t like sports or camping or other “manly” activities. Not to say that that’s what you meant, but that’s pretty much how it reads. Maybe you’re a stand up guy who would give a bright eyed queen a chance, but I’m going to guess that I’m giving you more credit than you deserve. The real problem is most of us as gay men (that includes all you pretenders out there) buy into the stereotypes that keep so many of us in the closet. Be a man already! And for the record I LOVE college football, hockey, and ultimate fighting – but I HATE camping…to many bugs.
Oh yeah – if you’re really hoping for a deeper connection than that of the one you’ll be getting during your hook up then maybe you shouldn’t be so quick to hit the sheets – try maybe getting to know someone first. And if all you really want is a quick hook up anyways – fems always make the best power bottoms *wink*
I am appalled at all the name calling hate and bitchy remarks here! So what, I’m not into people because they are heavier, not personally, but because fat is a turn off for me. There are chubby chasers, and they chase it cause they like it. I will still talk to anyone, and have always thought that a good looking face can make up for a.. “not good looking body.” I know there are people that literally cannot lose weight, and some people use this as an excuse. I’m in the opposite boat, I work out, out eat most of my friends, and have mantained 155 for the last 3 years. No matter what I do I cannot seem to gain weight.
I am a “straight act..” No nevermind. I act like ME. I have feminine tendencies, and masculine. I however, am not turned on by feminine guys. I won’t turn them down for discussion, but for some reason something just turns me off. Maybe it is that I don’t fit the stereotype and don’t think I like people who push it too far. I’ve always thought if I wanted to be with a person who is feminine, I’d date a woman (beyonce in particular ;P ). Getting personal and making assumptions about how someone looks based on what they say is so fucking pathetic and I’m very dissapointed in the people that use this site now.
People are people, and while they may not all be physically appealing, (or mentally) and they may not be something I find “attractive” doesn’t make them any less of a person. No one is better than someone else, were all equal. We need to embrace this 🙁
“if obesity is a disease, how come it never infects people in 3rd world countries?”
Lung Cancer is (in most cases) caused by people smoking all their lives, yet it is called a disease. Why is it that people who overeat (in most cases) are not given the same respect.
There are people who get Lung Cancer and have never smoked. There are people who are overweight that do not overeat. But the latter are rarely given that benefit of the doubt.
While I have used the example of Lung Cancer, there are many other ‘self inflicted’ diseases out there. To deny weight gain the same class is appalling.
Frankly, this hatred of ‘fat’ people mirrors the hatred of anyone different from yourself – racism, homophobia, etc.
My personal opinion is the real haters are more upset with themselves, but don’t have the guts (no pun intended) to sort out their own issues.
Lets try and be nice for a change. Especially here, where too many people seem compelled to comment on every perceived negative aspect of every article. Unless you are trying to be constructive (like my rant here, yes I am trying to make people think about this stuff, not just trying to make people feel bad), keep the negative shit to yourself.
Wow.. is all I can say. I have always known that we as a gay guys can be so critical of each other! Personally I am sickened by this particularly when I see it in writing.
To the guy that stated that there are Bear Sites, so why not BeautifulPeople? Well, if you’re NOT a Bear you’re still allowed to create an account on Bear411.com. No one “votes” you in or out. I’m not particularly a Bear and I’m in it.
No, it’s not politically correct I suppose, but the site does have a right to exist until it breaks some actual laws, etc…
As far as the “Fattie” issue: Well, I particularly am not attracted to extremely overweight people but I’m also not going to condemn them.
Personally I prefer the “next door guy” kind of look over the super worked-out body guys.
Haha being fat is the persons fault, lets look at a simple model for the fuckwits why think this is all magical.
Energy (Kj) in > Energy (Kj) used = Weight Gain
Energy (Kj) in = Energy (Kj) used = Weight Sustainability
Energy (Kj) in < Energy (Kj) used = Weight Loss
And yes I am a proud member of beautiful people, and yes I like the site, and I do not like being assaulted by fatties and uglys. All I want is just one day a year where I'm not visually assaulted by uglys and fatties.
I was once fat but having worked extremely hard doing diet and exercise i have managed to lose the weight and get a hot body, it’s not hard.
Just because your 60 and fat does not give you gods given right to bitch when the 18-22 jock doesn’t want to fuck you, Surprise.
Well thats my 2 cents
All these overweight people are just like all these gay guys. Guys could stop being gay whenever they want to, they just won’t choose to do it.
I think that once we win the war on equality, we need to fight the war within the community. The war that all of us fight with each other and ourselves – in terms of criticism, judgement, and self-hatred.
To each his own and to each website’s their own too…It just sucks that so many people can be so judgemental about what others like and what others don’t.
We celebrate “Pride Day” because we want to be proud of who we are – not just for being gay, but for who we want to love, date, have sex with and who we want to be. Some of the comments on this post doesn’t exactly make me want me to march in the parade, or celebrate it at all. It just shows that as a community and minority, we still have a LOOONNNGGGG way to go.
It’s all about respect, people. Learn it. Live it.
@charga – congratulations on your weight loss. My only concern is that with all that hard work you must have gained a great deal of hate and loathing. Unless you already had it when you were fat and ugly.
You might think otherwise, but having a lean body and pretty face, while being a total cunt – isn’t attractive.
Wow I never really comment on these things but this one I think is actually pretty funny
mostly what I’m hearing is that you people above are pretty SUPERFICIAL (yeah ya are).
Fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, fem and str8 are all labels
and labels belong on cans of food.
i don’t know about you but I don’t consider myself any of the above ( I am just me.)
and life will pass most of you by if you don’t change your ways 🙂
That’s just my opinion though.
so with all this hate in the comments (i’m not sure why i’d be shocked when people hate on the models on here too for being too skinny, too fat whatever! lol) I just wanna say there’s a balance that each individual person has to find within himself. I’m a big dude but its because I like to eat lol. I’m active, athletic whatever, I was a college athlete, but I also loved my mcdonalds.
Could I be skinny with a 32 inch waste – probably but I’d also be real angry because I can’t have my cheeseburger. So there’s a balance. If someone doesn’t want to associate with me because of that I’m ok with that. That’s their choice. I don’t know why everyone lets themselves get all worked up over other people’s comments. They have the right to express themselves just like anyone else if you don’t agree, move on your way and find someone who does want to give you time.
I guess the only real question I have is if you have such negative words to say to people – does it make you feel better after you say it? Personally if someone says something that pisses me off, I just keep on moving. Why waste the energy! 🙂
Hey, if you think being fat or fem is hard, at least you *could* change that. How about people not being attracted to you because of your race? And then the guys that do hit on you, you wonder if they have the “Asian Fetish”…
Just kidding. I’ve accepted my race, as well as my weight, my demeanor, my personality… I am who I am and who I want to be. Really, everyone has their own insecurities, judgments, preferences, opinions. There is no point trying to be attractive to everyone, because you never will.
One problem I see with a site like BeautifulPeople is that being good-looking is so subjective. You see that all the time here in the comments. Taylor Lautner, hot or not? I’ve heard extreme opinions either way. So it’s just too subjective to rely on.
Oh, and I’m gonna be honest and say that being obese is a lifestyle thing. If you’ve been to any other country, even Canada, you see much less obesity. How so? USA is even an immigrant country! Where did you all get the “fat gene”? Or is it “in the water”? Or maybe, just maybe, it’s because all the restaurant servings are twice as big as they were 50 years ago, and most kids grow up on fries, cheese and candies? Kids are getting fat in Asia too these days because they eat too much refined food and candies. It’s not magic, guys. McDonald’s kids menu (or any fast food chain’s) is the scariest piece of document in this country, and a lot of people aren’t even paying attention.
regardless of why someone is over weight does not give a mental FUCKS like W L I & Temple Drake the right 2 talk about over weight People simply because they have some misconceived notion that every over weight person chose 2 be. what about those who say being gay is a choice and BTW Temple Drake U sound like a 58 year old POMPOUS ASSHOLE who cannot tell the difference between a slap n the face and getting hit upon !!!
if you are Straight Acting, you are a Dumb ass insecure little Bitch, I know lesbians who is more straight acting then YOU Get it!!!! LOL
Bravo to Ross,for commenting on charga.I too have lost a lot of weight,and will continue to try to maintain my health,but I will not hate my own kind(i.e:Gay) because we’re not all physically perfect.Inside sometimes,I feel some self loathing because I’m not yet a 31 waist,but it doesnt make me hate others.And I celebrate Pride Day because my people are so diverse,and I embrace you all….except the really ‘perfect’ ones,because u dont have time to come to Gay Pride….
My sister tried and tired to lose weight, dieting, working out for years and nothing worked. She went to her doctor last year and the doc told her, she has an under active thyroid which is why she couldn’t lose weight and she’s fucking beautiful before she lost her weight and she still is.
Coming from someone that has an over active thyroid I’m unable to put on weight without the help of constant pills and also I workout but the moment I stop I instantly loose the muscle I’ve put on, so I continuously get they label of being a “twink”. So be it, it’s a label it doesn’t bother me. I have more hair on my body than most porn stars and I’m proud of it. I have my “flaming queen” moments but I also have my “st8 acting” moments, but when it all comes down to it, I have my ME moment, I am who I am, and nothing anything bitching person say is going to change that.
My point is with this website, who the fuck are they to say who’s beautiful. Yes everyone has different taste and to which makes everyone beautiful in someone else eyes.
And to all the people saying, no to fatties or fems, or -insert other labeled group of people-. Get to know someone first before you make a final decision on if you like them or not, you may not have a sexual partner but you may gain a friend.
W_L, I hope someday you get into a car accident and a fat nurse and an ugly doctor look at you and say, “Fuck him. We won’t operate on that fat-hating asshole.” Now go back to shallowpeople.org and bend over while Robert Heinz fucks you up the ass. You deserve each other.
SL, why is straight acting = insecure or self-hating? Who wrote the requirement that gay men must act feminine? Maybe YOU are so insecure about being gay that you have to act flamboyant in order to prove it to yourself?
as i’ve said before: we really don’t need The Breeders to bash us — us gays can take care of the lambasting, ourselves.
which is why.. ..usually, the only thing we have in common, is that we like the same gender.
Please,kill me with the people cannot help that they are fat.This is the case with very few americans.The truth is obesity is the result of poor eating habits which is why there is such a large call for promotion of healthier eating.America has one of the poorest diets in the world and its contributing to consuming foods that are high in carbs and calories.We are entitled to eat what we want,however do not become angry if someone dislikes you for being obese or heavy.I’m actually a chubby chaser because some of them have enormous large bubble asses that i like pounding.However,i also realize much of there chubbiness is a cause of what i witness them eat.I personally do not agree with that particular website getting rid of the bigger people because it never made it clear in the first place the site was aimed at in shape people of a certain weight.However,if it chose to change that is there obligation.
As for the “NO FEMS”thing.Get the fuck over it.A man does not like you because you are effeminate,so what!.I personally feel they could express there dislike a little more appropiate.Instead of saying”NO FEMS”they could say”Sorry,but i am not interested in effeminate men”.However,they are not obligated to say such.So why waste time and energy criticizing them for something they have no obligation to do.Its best to ignore them and move on.No one is obligated to like you because your fat.No one is obligated to come out and join gay pride parades.No one is obligated to associate with you because your effeminate.